Post # 1
I’m only 13 weeks. I’m not “showing,” at least not in the sense that my uterus is so big it’s pushing my belly out. The reality is, I’m bloated, I’ve always had a bit of a pooch, and now it’s just too uncomfortable to try to suck in all the time. I’ve always struggled a little with my appearance, and I admit I am nervous about how much my body is going to change. But at this point, I haven’t gained any weight, my clothes still fit, and I don’t think I look much different.
I know I’m being sensitive and self-conscious, but I feel like people shouldn’t tell me I’m showing until I have a legitimate baby bump. My mother in law and a coworker mentioned something, and I know they mean well, but right now when they say that, I feel like they’re just telling me I look fat.
Talk me off the ledge Bees. Commiserate or tell me I’m being a brat.
Post # 3
@ZoeyGirl: I think that as soon as someone’s belly is poking out (even if its just a little) people start saying that you’re showing. Everyone did it to me around te same time too. Just say thanks, bein pregnant is so cute!!
Post # 4
@ZoeyGirl: I’m in the exact opposite boat, but I totally understand. I’m 34 weeks and everyone’s telling me how much I’m not showing. I was overweight before getting pregnant and have actually lost weight instead of gaining. But, I have what to me feels/looks like a very distincy-in-the-way-and-uncomfortable bump. I feel like a miserable whale. But everyone’s like, “Oh my goodness, you can’t even tell you’re pregnant!” Uhm, what? So I’ve just always been this fat?? Smh. 😐 I wish people just didn’t feel the need to comment on my pregnancy appearance at all. It would make things so much easier.
Post # 5
Oh man, I’m three weeks from my wedding and only eating rabbit food. I would love to have an excuse to pooch out a bit and eat some chocolate cake. Nom nom nom.
I guess the grass is always greener!
Post # 6
Dude, I feel you. It sucks! I think when people know your pregnant they think it’s a cute compliment.
IN reality it makes prego feel upset, hormonal, slightly psycho and ready to binge on cheese fries.
Post # 7
@ZoeyGirl: I’m guilty of saying that to my pregnant family/friends.
Do I do it to be offensive? No.
I’ve never been pregnant before, so I don’t know it’s your uterus, but that it’s your pooch. Now that I know, I’ll be more sensitive and I’ll try not to say that the next time I have an opportunity to.
Post # 8
@ZoeyGirl: I got it all the time because from about 3-4 months onwards it was pretty obvious, since I am a fairly small girl to begin with. I feel for you but I’ve got no solution. Just inwardly sigh and carry on. Look on the bright side, people are trying to compliment you, not deliberately being mean.
Post # 9
I’m almost 20 weeks, I actually have a small bump now that is not just bloating, and I STILL feel self-conscious. I thought that I wouldn’t when I started to show for real, but I am. I hate that as soon as people who know I’m pregnant see me or find out that I’m pregnant they look down at my stomach. It’s just weird to know that people are assessing your body. At the same time, I’ve totally been guilty of that and get excited seeing friends start to show. I’m trying to get over the self-consciousness, but it’s hard. I think we just need to try to re-wire the brain to think of it as a positive….
Post # 11
@ZoeyGirl: I could have written this. My assistant first told me I popped at 7 weeks and again at 10. I wasn’t skinny to start with- so she’s just commenting on the belly I’ve had. Some guy I was chatting with on the street (I talk to lots of random people due to walking my dog around the hood) about dogs and babies told me at 9 weeks that I was carrying low. A good friend said I was really showing last week- at 13 weeks.
My stomach is my worst part and I just hate that as soon as I tell people their eyes go right there. I honestly can’t wait to be further along so I start showing and stop feeling so completely self conscious. I have always hated comments on my body- even people telling me that I’ve lost weight. I hate feeling analyzed. There is nothing anyone can do to make it feel better, but just know you’re not alone.
Post # 12
@mamadingdong: Thank you! I get that people aren’t trying to be insensitive, but the early bloaty part of pregnancy sucks a little, because you’re nauseous and fat, but you don’t feel that pregnant yet. I just wish people would stop looking at my fat. I think it’ll be better when I actually feel I have a bump.
And @fzesguer: I’m sure you mean we’ll and hopefully you’re friends aren’t as self conscious as I am. But it’s not until 20 weeks that the uterus even reaches up to the belly button, so before that, anything you see is mostly bloat or overall widening (unless the person was really skinny before).
Thanks for commiserating, ladies! I guess we all have body issues and pregnancy just makes them worse.
Post # 13
These people just want to be happy for you. Rock the bloat like a bump (I do).
I think this is a silly thing to get upset over: only you know the composition of your belly & nobody is judging you but youself. I also think that if it bothered you that much that people comment, it might have been best not to tell acquaintances & coworkers until you did pop.
Post # 14
Well, because of your pregnancy causing the bloat, you are showing! Rock it! I’m 42 weeks now (Don’t ask…) and look like a whale. Enjoy your tiny bump while you have it.
Post # 15
Haha Personally Id rather them say “you’re showing!” than “jeez you’re so bloated” :p
Post # 16
@ZoeyGirl: also, my uterus reached my belly button at 15wks, those are just estimates that say 20wks. Everyone’s body is different. 🙂