Member- FedUpWithThis
- 4 years ago
- Wedding: December 1969
So my brother got married earlier this year and I’ll confess and say that I’ve never liked her very much and now it is just getting worse and worse and I’m sick of being the one told to ‘suck it up’ because it feels like no one ever tells HER to suck it up. She gets away with doing whatever she wants without caring how other people feel about it. No one tells her to take the high road.
She’s always been really rude and snobby to me and I could share numerous stories of times she has made fun of me in front of my family and they’ve laughed awkwardly instead of sticking up for me because they don’t want to cause a rift in the the family. I broke up with my fiance last year because he was cheating on me with a girl from work and she acts like she is so much better than me because she is ‘successfully’ married and it’s the worst, most horrible feeling, especially because I still haven’t been able to meet someone and it’s been 16 months now. She has always tried to ‘push me aside’ too, like every time our family goes somewhere, she stops my brother from talking to me and since my parents are paired off, I just sit there like an awkward third wheel and it’s gotten that way I have started avoiding going out with my family. She always makes fun of my interests, acts like I’m a hassle and she even acts like she is my mother’s daughter, not me, like buying her a birthday card that said ‘from your favorite daughter’. YOU’RE NOT HER DAUGHTER, GO AWAY. She acts like I’m irreelvant when this is supposed to be MY FAMILY and whenever I say something, I get told we all have to suck up having people we don’t like in the family and take the high road. Why has no one told HER this? She clearly doesn’t like me, but why isn’t she getting told to tak the high road and not be awful to me? My brother is so infatuated with her that he won’t tell her to stop her behavior and my parents won’t do anything because they refuse to take sides, so now I’m stuck with this witch in my family who makes me feel so uncomfortable in my family I don’t want anything to do with them. Why is it ME who has to suck it up? Why am I expected to feel awful in my own family?
Anyway, she announced at my birthday dinner in August she is pregnant which completely took away from my birthday and she had the cake changed to ‘Congratulations [[Her Name]] and [[My Name]] which made me so angry because she made it all about her. It was even HER NAME first! She had to turn my birthday dinner into a celebration of her having sex without a condom which she could have done on ANY OTHER DAY. She couldn’t have done the weekend after? Of course not, then she wouldn’t get to put me in my place below her. Now she has found out it is a girl and wants to give the baby the exact same name as me because she likes the name. We are not from a culture where having the same name as relatives is common and I’m really upset about it because I feel like my name is meant to be ‘special’ in the family and now she is ‘reassinng’ it to her kid. Now every time my parents are talking about M——–, they’re going to be like ‘Oh which one?’ and it makes me feel I’ve been replaced in my own family and I’m not even excited about having a niece or nephew anymore because now that kid is a trophy how she has ‘won’ in making me feel irreelvant. I’ve even started looking at jobs on the other side of the country to get away from them all, becuse freezing in Toronto would be better than dealing with this nonsense all the time.
I can tell you right now if I named my child her name, everyone would beg me not to do it (not that I would in the first place, even though I like her name, the family already has an A———-, whether I like it or not’ and when my brother suggested a different name, she was all ‘THIS IS MY DREAM BABY NAME, I’M USING IT’ so everyone backed off and no one CARES how I feel, I just have to suck up having my name doubled up in the family and no one understands why I’m uspet and it’s easy for them to say because THEY are not the ones who are treated like poo by her, they are not the ones getting their name used, they are not the ones being told to ‘suck it up’ when she is never told that. Tell HER to suck it up. Tell her she married into a Family with a M———- already so pick another god damn name for your stupid baby. There are milions of other names out there, why does it have to be MINE? This is MY NAME in the family. It’s so obvious she is trying to craft a family for herself that is my parents, my brother, her and their stupid baby. Just because her parents are apparently jerks doesn’t mean she gets to find a nice family, marry the boy and then try and take the sisters place.
I wish my brother never married this awful monster and I wish she’d just go away and take her smug bullying with her. She’s basically ruined my family for me :(. Why can’t she suck it up. Or better yet, why can’t my brother divorce her.
