(Closed) I'm SICK OF SUCKING IT UP. Tell the sister in law to 'suck it up' for once.

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 136
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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FedUpWithThis:  It’s just a name!!!! 🙂 Do you think nobody else in the world is called M…. ? If I google my own name on Facebook, there’s like plenty of other people who have my exact name and surname… So what? It doesn’t mean they’re replacing me in the world… And it doesn’t mean that your little niece is replacing you! That’s EXACTLY what your SIL wants you to think… are you doing to give her what she wnats? CarolinaPeach13’s post is 100% true… I suggest you print it out and read it over and over again. Being angry against SIL is like drinking poison and hoping she dies… it will do Nothing for you whatsoever. Rise above it and focus on developing the kind of confidence where some b*tch, no matter who she is, has absolutely no power over you.

Post # 183
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

OMG i’m so sorry. She sounds like a complete nutcase.

You have every reason to feel upset. There’s a lot to respond to but i’ll focus on two things.

1. Try not to be upset that the babys name is yours. It’s very strange that she wants to name it that, but don’t give her the satisfaction that it bothers you. This bab;y will not take away from you , but rather there will be 2 special people in the family with your name. 

2. I hear your pain. I too have a sister in law I despise. I get very angry with my husband and his family for allowing her to be a bitch and not standing up against her. I realized, I was taking a passive position. I was moping and angry that no one is calling her on her BS when it is I who should stand up to her. You have the right to make a joke or just seriously call her out. you have power. Wish i could help you more…*hugs*

Post # 140
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Well I guess the baby is here by now  ( thread is 7 months old)

I do hope OP took some at least of the advice and the poor little babe isn’t the eye of the storm right now ……………

Post # 141
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Bumble bee

I would have told SIL to F’off a long time ago. I am not a doormat and no one is going to treat me like one. She is verbally abusive and controlling.  Her brother needs to get his balls back and tell her that she is not going to keep him from talking to his sister.

I like the idea of naming a dog after her. Introduce it as “here’s my bitch ___!”

My BFF named her daughter after me. I was honored. For 15 years, I have been big A and she is little A, even though she is taller than me now. 🙂

Post # 142
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Worker bee

I am so sorry you have to deal with this type of person.  I have a SIL who is the same way.  She doesn’t want my brother to have ANY relationships with anyone but her.  I am, and have always been, extremely close to my brother. She does everything in her power to keep him away from me.  Luckily my brother always finds a way to see me despite her trying to control him, but our visits are far and few between now because he has to wait for opportunities to come meet me for lunch or a visit. Why the frick should someone have to sneak around to see their own sister? He has tried just boldly tell her he is going to see me whether she likes it or not but she makes his life a living hell for days and days after that.  I do not want to be responsible for being the cause of strife in his life.

I’ve tried the be nice to her thing and that has no effect on her whatsoever.  I, like you, often feel enraged that this person that entered our lives wants to see to it that I have to go to the end of my days without ever seeing my brother again.  What kind of sick twisted f#$k does that? I do nothing to threaten their relationship but merely exist on this planet.

Unfortunately, I do not have any sage advice when it comes to this type of situation.  I am here to commiserate with you.  Hang in there hon.

Post # 143
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2016

Sucks to be in this situation. I would hate it. If I were you, the next time she does something that irritates me, I would just tell her. Don’t wait to say it in private. Just say you don’t like it but in a nice way. Like, “why would you say that? That really hurts my feelings?.”  At that point she would with have to apologize or look like an ass.  She could try to laugh it off but if that happens I would force the situation by saying something along the lines of “Its not funny to me that you hurt my feelings. I would really like an apology from you.”  And again she would be forced to either apologize or look like a heartless b.  Just say it nicely but be persistent.  If she can insult you in front of company, then she can apologize too.

Dont take anymore abuse from her because obviously all that crap you are swallowing from her is poisoning you. that’s just what I would do.  

Post # 144
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Oh my, i wondered what happened :/

Post # 145
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Busy Beekeeper

This  thread is seven months old. And she hasn’t posted since. Tag the OP

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Post # 146
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015 - Fairmont Banff Springs Hotel

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FedUpWithThis:  The reason you have to take the high road instead of her is that you are the one with the problem. I am sorry, but if you want something to change- you have to be the one to do it. You can’t just complain about her, as completely awful as she is being. 

I hope things changed for the better after all this time!

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