(Closed) I’m sick of unintentionally hurting my MOH

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
7431 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

Oh my god, I can’t handle the drama anymore, and I promise I’m not trying to hurt her. Any time I apologize now when she acts like she’s hurt she says it’s fine and she promises she’s not mad but I feel the distance in our relationship. 

With all of the craziness going on with my family right now, the last thing I want is to alienate my best friend.

Tell her this. You just have to be honest with her, and work on a solution together. Explain why things have happened the way they have. I’ve been with my husband for 7 years, and my bff has been single the entire time, with just a few dates with random people in there. But, she has helped me through so much, and she tells me when things hurt her or she feels bad about the fact that she’s still single and I’m not, and we work through it. It also helps that her and hubs are really close too, so she never feels like the third wheel when she is around us

Post # 4
1269 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

To start with, I think you should stop texting your Maid/Matron of Honor.  It sounds like there is already some sensitivity so the texting is making it worse.  And then I think, if you can, I would take her out or schedule just the two of you for lunch or dinner or a friend date and not talk about wedding stuff.  It sounds like she is really into it but I think you might need to reconnect as friends for just some bonding time. 

Post # 6
180 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Agree! Texting can get so many thing out of context. You need to talk to her on the phone or face to face. If you still want her involved in things, take time to help her with them, too. Give her ideas, enourage her… With this kind of hurt, it will take a little hand-holding on your part, but it will really help.


Try not to let this come between you two. You are both stressed out. You’re trying to do the best by her and she is trying to do the best by you! Have a coffee day together and just get through this. It isn’t worth ruining your relationship over when you can easily just talk to one another.

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