Post # 1
When Fiance gets sick, he’s a big fat baby. However, today is not the day for his games.
I got eyelash extensions Saturday, but I had an allergic reaction and my eyes swelled shut. I finally got the swelling down and the eyelashes off, but I have chemical burns under my eyes and have to swint to see anything. Luckily, I can still see the screen to type this. It was like this all day at work. So, I’m laid up in the dark room with the laptop on dim trying not to think about my eyes.
When Fiance got home from work I asked him to help me get set up in bed so I was comfortable. But, he said he had a “headache” and “couldn’t see” either. Fine, I understand, we’ll both be miserable. But, then, his headache went away when he remembered he had to go run som errands. After getting home, I asked him to get some dinner because how h* am I supposed to do anything right now with an oven? He told me he couldn’t because he his back was “killing him.” Fine. Then, when he got hungry, his back suddently got better and he made a pizza. And just now, he came in and said “I can’t believe that how sick I’m getting. I’m dying.” Really? You’re dying?
Now, don’t get me wrong, I hate being sick too and I would understand if we were both just DONE today. But, three different incapacitating ailments in 4 hours? Why is he behaving this way?
Maybe I’m just miserable and overly sensitive.
Post # 3
Nothing is ever as bad as the “man” version of anything.
You probably are miserable and over sensitive, and he’s probaby being a whiny brat just as bad 🙂
Post # 4
@aliavenue: this just scared me about my eyelash extension appt 2 days before my wedding…. what happened???
Post # 5
Oh boy, if you ever decide to have a baby there is a whole delightful world of man illness that are so much worse than whatever you might be going through! It’s positively uncanny.
Post # 6
@MrsNerdy: I was allergic to the glue – anywhere it touched my skin it took it off. As miserable as I am right now, I’m so glad it happened now at the trial appointment. I would suggest a trial run FOR SURE.
Post # 7
I hate to scare you but my friend’s Darling Husband is like this. When they dating/engaged she thought it was just a stereotypical guy being a whiny sick baby. Nope it was a sign that he is selfish. It all about him. He was able to hide it foe awhile, but now that they are married and have a toddler, he pulls that kind of crap all the time.
Don’t let him get away with it. You deserve to be pampered too!
Post # 8
@aliavenue: Oooh, wow, I’m glad that you went in early! I think your Fiance is just being a butt! Guys can be like that. Imagine how the world would end if every woman whined like men for the entire week that we’re bleeding to death! The horror! I’d just treat yourself to some cozy surroundings tonight and ask him to only whisper to you because you’ve got a headache now, too 😉
@MrsNerdy: Maybe you can stop over and have a trial early, or ask them to just apply some of the glue to sensitive skin like your inner upper arm or neck to test it out.
ETA- I also agree with PP above. Once you are feeling better (and a little less sensitive because you are actually sick), bring it up with him calmly and let him know that it’s not cool. You’re here to support one another, and sometimes that’s no fun for the not-sick one, but that’s life. You are now about each other, not yourselves, and that’s totally a valid issue to bring up.
Post # 9
Geez. I hope he at least brought you some of the pizza he made. If he’s well enough to go run errands, he’s well enough to baby you a little bit. Not doing crap for you when you just had your eye lids burned off is bullshit if he is still obviously capable and not laying there with you from being sick, or with a headache or backache or whatever.
Post # 10
I agree, if he is well enough to run errands he is well enough to bring you dinner. I think this is a behavior that needs to be nipped in the but NOW before it becomes a regular thing. Can you imagine being 8 months pregnant with this man in the house not willing to help you out? I don’t know wether or not you plan to have children any time soon… but I am just saying, talk to him about it now before you get to that point please!
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Post # 12
ugh my Darling Husband always acts like im a huge wuss when i’m sick and then suddenly the world is ending when he’s got the sniffles (which is rare thank god). i think partly guys feel helpless when we’re sick and so they just completely blow it off because they can’t fix it.. if that makes sense. my Darling Husband was STILL acting like I was a huge wuss when were were on the way to the emergency room for my herniated disk in my back about a month ago. That does suck that he suddenly has three different things wrong with him when you legitimately need some help. I would talk to him about it when you’re “both” feeling better. My husband will take care of me to an extent, and he actually was very nice after we left the hospital, and then he gets impatient and stops. He tries though.
Post # 14
Hah- men. My sweet, lovely, dear Fiance pulled his hamstring a bit in a rugby match. We got home and he was all “Ooooohh, ouch, owww, ooh” and I asked if I could get him anything… then he looked at me and suddenly stopped acting like a sissy- because I was on crutches with a broken femur and not only drove us home from the game, but had also let the dogs out and gotten his ice and ibuprofen. I didn’t hear ONE MORE WORD about that hamstring.
Post # 15
Men just dont deal with illness very well. My dad was always like this when he gets sick and my husband is the same.
Post # 16
Sorry, I think it’s BS that he acted like that. My Fiance is a bit of a baby when he’s sick, but he still tries to help me out and when I’m sick he bends over backward to be there for me (and vice versa – though I have to force him to let me take care of him b/c he sees sickness as weakness). Not even helping you make food then getting some for himself? Ridiculous. This needs to be discussed and he needs to know treating you like that is NOT okay. You are going to be married, and marriage is a partnership where you take care of one another not feign illness to get out of simple things like help someone sit up into a more comfortable position or make dinner when their EYES have chemical burns. Wtf.