(Closed) I'm so angry I could punch someone!

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
1210 posts
Bumble bee

@out4answers:  We share a car too, so I feel your pain! Maybe he can try to make nice with his carpool friend and rejoin? Even a small token like a $10 gift card to a restaurant would be a nice gesture. And in the future, he can consider bringing a book or listening to an iPod to avoid even conversing with the man. It doesn’t sound like a lack of conversation would be a problem for either of them.

Post # 4
14486 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

That totally sucks, but there’s nothing he can do now about the carpool unless he can find another one or try to work it out with the guy.  What was so hard about carpooling, just sit in the car and shut up.. wow, I’d be pissed.  The gas was a hefty increase, but if he’s making double, I dont understand why you guys cant afford it.  Surely he got more than a $300/month raise?  Do you have any carpool options or other ways to get to work?


Post # 6
14486 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

But the extra $300 a month is still worth the double salary, right?  Would you rather be in this situation, or the one where he was working closer and made half?  The overall still sounds like an increase?  I mean, if you rather be in the situation where his job was closer and making half, maybe he can find another job again?

Post # 8
337 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I can see why you are frustrated. Its extremely hard to share a car when you both have lives. My fiance and I were in the same predicament before so we saved every penny we could and after about a month of hellll, he saved up about $500 and bought a junky car that got him from point A to point B. Is that an option for you guys? Or else he should try to make peace with the guy.

Post # 9
8042 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@out4answers:  That’s a crappy situation but maybe it’s for the best if he constantly fought with the carpool guy? I agree w. you that maybe he should have just kept his mouth shut and enjoyed the ride.

I don’t know.. I am guessing there is no public transport nearby? Would you consider switching jobs so you could get a ride in with him at least some of the time or be near a bus route?

I am guessing that buying a second hand car is not in the cards, but maybe for your own sanity you could get an old junker for now?


Post # 10
13099 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

It still sounds like guys should be coming out ahead.  Double the salary for $300 worth of gas a month (and it isn’t even a $300 increase, because I’m sure he was spending some on gas for the old job too).

If he is making double the salary, can’t you guys buy a older, used, inexpensive car to give you a mode of transportation for your job?  Insurance on it wouldn’t be very much and then you wouldn’t be stuck at home.

Post # 11
1077 posts
Bumble bee

It sounds like he’s just going to have to suffer the consequences of his hard-headedness, which to me includes finding you a mode of transportation. Even a beat-up used car that runs would do the trick.

Post # 12
1627 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

What about investing in a scooter?  I know that won’t be as ideal in the winter, but it should still get you to/from your job if it’s close, and also to other close places.  I don’t think they’re all that expensive.

Post # 14
9688 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@out4answers:   I think everyone has had some good suggestions.

Have you decided what you’re going to do?

Post # 15
2009 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

He behaved like an asshole and got what he deserved.

As for a solution, how about a bike??


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