- 4 years ago
- Wedding: March 2014
Bee’s I am in tears of happiness/relief/gratitude/shock right now. This is long, but I hope you can stick with me!
I’ve only been able to work full time for about two months of the last eighteen due to chronic illness and a reoccurrence of RSI thanks to my typing job. We’ve been scraping the bottom of the barrell for almost the entire time FH and i have been living together thanks to that, because FH used his savings to buy and renovate the small unit where we live, just before I moved in. It’s tough, really tough. We keep reminding ourselves that “we have a roof (that we own!) over our heads, food in our bellies, clothes on our back and each other” but not surprising, that sort of prolonged financial stress is not at all fun. When I went back to my old job full time we finally started to get our heads above water and were able to build some savings and started planning a honeymoon to Thailand. Then the old RSI set in, I’ve barely worked three weeks since November, we’ve had to accept financial help from my parents (who are already paying for the wedding, they are incredibly generous people) and any idea of a honeymoon went out the window, other than the idea of a two night minimoon a few hours drive from home.
Well… there was a Bee here asking about an NZ honeymoon, and it got me thinking. My parents live in Auckland, so i was thinking that if we could somehow manage to get cheap flights home, we could use our couple of nights away in NZ (exchange rate is in our favour) and then spend the rest of the time at my parent’s place, where we’re always welcome. Then my brother mentioned (and no idea why I hadn’t thought of it myself) our extended family’s beach place, so that we wouldn’t need to spend the extra money. An idea started to develop of going home for a couple of weeks (I’m going to have resigned by then and FH has plenty of leave). I’m DESPERATE to get home, I’ve only taken FH home once and have a 92 year old grandma who won’t make it to the wedding. I miss her, and Auckland, so bad.
Anyway… to cut this long story short, mum and dad had said we’d discuss it when they’re over at the end of Jan, but I pushed the issue a little because we have just enough to pay for the flights now and there were unbeatable fares in a sale that ends tomorrow. So tonight, mum and dad fessed up that hte reason they were holding off is that after the wedding we’ll be receiving money from my grandfather’s will as a wedding present, that was also given to my brother and cousins etc. I’m the youngest in the family, and received a similar gift for my 21st birthday, but somehow I just had never seen this coming.
So… we’re going to have our NZ honeymoon. But we’re also going to be able to fulfill a dream of mine and take FH to the Bay of Islands, one of my favourite places on earth, for a few nights of luxury! I. am. so. excited. FH has put up with so much with me being sick & often either weepy or grumpy or frustrated or angry. The sadness and defeat when he admitted we couldn’t do a honeymoon still sticks in my head. He deserves this so bad.
And then… we’ll still get to split the rest of the two weeks between our original plan, our family’s beach place, and my parents house! Squee!!!!
Can I make you all jealous and show off a little? This is the view from my old bedroom 😉 (on a cloudy day) FH is as excited about waking up to this as he is about anything else!
And the deck, at sunset. This place makes my heart happy.