(Closed) I’m so frustrated with people cancelling at the last minute

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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1352 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I had 5 people pull a no show at my wedding of 75, and they were all at one table!!! Assholes. I felt so bad for my other friends who were stuck at that table. AND I never heard fom them after not an I’m sorry… Kiss my ass… Nothing!!

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

That sucks big time!!  =o(  I hope they give you good excuses!  

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

Ugh I know. I had 9 no shows/last minute cancellations. We only had 82 people so that was more than 10%!  At $80 pp, I definitely wanted to yell at the cancellers that i had better things to spend 800 bucks on…

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Ooooooooh I’d be so mad! Inexcusable! Rude and tacky, speaks volumes about them as people!

Post # 7
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581 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Honestly, I know it’s petty but i would find a round about way to say something.  Like “you must be really sick/ or it must’ve been a huge emergency to cancel on me with such short notice.  I hope everything is ok.”

Hope they at least have the decency to send you some sort of gift to make up for it!

 

Post # 8
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667 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I went to a wedding once and there were over 20 escort cards sitting on the escort card table by the end of the night. I could understand like 5 or six people not showing up. But 20? You’ve got to be kidding me. 

Post # 9
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2007 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

at least they are telling you!!  I had like 7 people (if not more) out of 90 just not come and so we had empty chairs and extra food… but hey, in the end it doesn’t make TOO big of a difference..

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I had 20 no shows at my wedding size of 116, 3 I learned of the night before. The rest were my husband’s aunt/uncle and cousins. When their parents got sick (colds), their adult kids said they had to take care of them. When the aunt and uncle found out all their kids didn’t show up and we paid $116 a person, they felt so bad. I felt bad that we paid so much for people who didn’t understand the costs involved in a wedding and when you rsvp Yes, people pay for you to attend. 

Post # 11
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583 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I have had 8 people cancel out of 210 but some people have asked if they could bring another person they weren’t orginally going to take so i said its okay since i don’t have to pay for them. so now we have 2 meals unused which is better than 8 in my book lol it does suck my dads family 6 people said 1 week before the wedding that they weren’t going to come after RSVPing yes and the seating card and place cards were done it was ANNOYINGGG.

Post # 12
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5428 posts
Bee Keeper

So…… why don’t you tell these people that they costed you money NOT to attend…. they are being very rude and I think it’s fair you tell them

For example: “You’re not coming? I just spent $50 for your dinner and drinks and you’ll be making me re-arrange the whole table. Your aunt just called too. and so did 3 other people… That’s a total of  $250  of my money and my time to re-arrange those tables so there aren’t any empty seats! I DON’T HAVE THE TIME TO DO THAT RIGHT NOW!”

Slam the phone down…. or make that slamming noise in their ears before you “click” off your cordless!

I would love for someone to have enough guts to do that…. LOL

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

@Bichon Frise:  That really, really sucks. Will the restaurant be willing to take off those numbers (I know you said final, but maybe worth a try), or can you add last minute guests? They would be people who wouldn’t have been offended not receiving an invite- for example, my Mom’s best friend’s sister never expected an invite, but if we called her a few days before the wedding, she’d love to come.

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I got a phone call last weekend from a friend filling me in on her situation and letting me know she has to cancel. Even though its valid, there goes 3 people off my already confirmed list. I thought we would have 90-100 guests but now its looking more like 80. NOW I’m really worried  how many of the 80 confirmed guests will cancel between now and my wedding or pull a no show!! My wedding is 3 weeks away from today!!!

I also had 2 guests let me know yesterday that they couldn’t make it. They asked to let me know past our RSVP date and I did since they were really trying to come….there goes 4 other guests who I was waiting to see.

TIP: This is what I have found……………. all of the guests who you invite who don’t reply right away or before the RSVP date, or are the ones that you have to chase to get their RSVP and are most likely the ones who won’t be attending your wedding.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

i had 9 people cancel the week before the wedding and then four no shows the day of.  i was not only paying per for food but for alcohol, cake, favors…the per person cost (and we’re not talking about things that would cost the same if we had 50 guests or 500) was over $200 per person.  i was not a happy camper.  i also had place cards, escort cards, and seating charts done.  i made library pockets with table numbers on shipping tags.  each pocket had the couple’s names on them and behind each shipping tag were the place cards.  this way i could easily change the table numbers and leave couples together.

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