- 4 years ago
Not really looking for advice, I just need to vent. I’ve already posted a couple of threads about my mom. Today she’s really getting under my skin.
SO and I live with my parents. It’s only until I transfer schools. We just don’t see the point in paying all kinds of deposits and bills when we have to uproot in less than a year anyways. Last night, my dad asked if SO minded taking my mom to the doctor if he put gas in the car. Sure, no prob, it was just to get a prescription refilled.
Today, SO has to work (he works night shift), so he’s tired. He lets Mama’s friend, who is also staying with us, borrow the car to run her to the doctor. This is at 9 am. They leave, come back, but don’t give SO his keys. At 11 or 12, they leave again. SO starts wondering where they are, so close to 3pm I text Mama, “Hey, [SO] wants to know when you’ll be home.” Nothing else. 10 minutes later, no reply, so I text the same thing to Mama’s friend, figuring maybe her phone was dead cause she’s usually good about texting back. Not even two minutes later, she calls me, saying “Well I needed to go to the grocery store if you want anything to eat and [SO] shouldn’t worry cause there’s plenty of gas in the car!” In a really bitchy tone before I pretty much say “fine” and hang up.
Later, she calls me back, bitching about how she told SO she needed to run some errands (she didn’t). She said she had to go back to the doctor, then to get worm meds for the dogs and to the grocery store “but she would go straight home and forget the worm meds and groceries.” Now, wait a minute. I go to the same doctor she does and I have NEVER spent four hours in her office! So if she’s not at the doctor, but she also hasn’t got groceries or worm meds, what is she doing?
She also said she didn’t appreciate being “stalked” (two texts equals stalking?) and SO never does this when he lets his best friend borrow the car. I tried to explain to her that SO has NEVER let anyone but me use his car, and yes, he texts and calls wondering when I’ll be home, so there was no need for her to get up in arms and offended. She spouts back off at me, “Well, that’s your fault for standing for that kind of treatment but I won’t stand for it!” And then tries to say she never gave him a time she’d be home so he shouldn’t be worried. Um, she took his car without his permission and expects him to not be worried? For all he knew, they’d wrecked or gotten the car towed or something.
SO is now worried that she’s gonna try to kick him out. “Well, if I can’t use your car, you can get out of my house!” Sounds like something she’d say (however, keep in mind SO pays rent here and is paid up through this month). I’m irritated and have a headache from being yelled at and trying to speak calmly to her only to be interuppted and argued with. I just don’t understand how she thinks this is okay. I’m also worried that she won’t be home in time for him to go to work (she’s been known to take my dad’s car and leave for days or weeks, leaving him and me stranded). I’m scared there will be some huge blow out fight and SO and I will be kicked out with nowhere to go.
I don’t really know what advice there is for you bees to give, but I just needed to vent and maybe hear that SO and I aren’t crazy for expecting to know where his car is at.