(Closed) im so lonely…so hurt..

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 33
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

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@Bella88: I take it from your very very confusing post that you are in school and in an LDR…I think you need more hobbies and a life outside of worrying about what your SO is up to. Relationships are tough, I get that. But you need to focus on school, find something constructive to do with your time, and confront your SO about the issues you have in your relationship. Marriage is not  going to fix the problems that you two have. 

Post # 34
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

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@Bella88: Um, how are any of us on his side? And how, exactly, did he “break your heart”?

Post # 35
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

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@Bella88: What question did you ask me? Your posts are confusing as hell. 

Post # 37
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Could it be that he’s just exhausted or unhappy with something else going on in life? Is he really busy right now and feeling overwhelmed?

Post # 38
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

um well I have been in an LDR for almost 8 years. I know how hard it is and we’ve had fights that lead to him going offline/ignoring my calls etc. Its really damn hard. It’s like the world just stopped turning! I wanted him to crawl back and say how sorry he was and admit he did me wrong but he didn’t, and then I just wanted him to just come back! In the end I had to calm down and not argue, just swallow it and act normal until he calmed down and we were ok again.

But thats just us, normally we are pretty attached at the hip and our pc’s are always on, always connected by skype so I don’t know what advice I can give since I have no idea what your relationship is like expect that I know it sucks when this happens and hopefully when he calms down and you calm down it’ll work out 🙂

good luck.

Post # 41
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

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@Bella88: Like many have said, marriage is not going to fix your problems. You need to learn how to communicate with eachother. And, “marriage better have a positive impact on him”…what does that mean? That you are giving him ultimatums regarding his behavior? You need to fix your relationship BEFORE jumping into such a huge commitment!!!

-.- sigh..

Post # 42
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Wow…I can’t beleive I even attempted to read through all of that…I wish I could give you some helpful advice but my head hurts trying to figure out the issue. I hope it all works out for you in the end….good luck.

Post # 43
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

None of us are “on his side”, we’re just trying to give you constructive advice on how to help you approach your boyfriend. Giving him silent treatment isn’t going to help. We’re trying to tell you that you need to ask him what the issue here is and why he’s treating you in a way that’s hurting your feelings.That’s the adult, mature thing to do.

 

Post # 44
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

If you’re seeking comfort I can understand that, you’re upset but it’s not fair to those that you’re asking the comfort from when we don’t know WHY you’re upset. It’s as if I run up to you crying telling you “Why is he ignoring me, I feel so lonely, he broke my heart, he doesn’t apologize” and all I want from you is for you to tell me “Oh honey, just call him, step up”. All of us here want to help you, honest we do but you’re not giving us any insight to what happened. If you do then we can give you some suggestions.

Does this make any sence?

Post # 45
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

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@Bella88: well if you’re only seeing each other once a year, that’s a whole lot of impossible to deal with. But if you don’t think it’s going to get better and are willing to resign yourself to that, then be ready to deal with this for life. It Will Not Get Better With Marriage.

If you type fast, you type fast. But adding a little bit of spelling, grammar, and less text speak would make it a heck of a lot easier to figure out what you’re trying to say.

Post # 46
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

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@Bella88: Oh..I see now. You just want someone to pat you on the back and tell you that “its not you, its him”…well, good luck with that method. 

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