(Closed) im so lonely…so hurt..

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 63
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2977 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Ok, it’s starting to feel like arguing with a small child. OP, please stop holding down the letter keys when you type. Please stop arguing with the other bees who are bringing up valid points. You are making yourself extremely hard to follow. Calm down. Sleep on it. Talk to him in the morning. We’ve been trying to tell you that ignoring him won’t make it better. Are you actually ENGAGED to this man?

Post # 65
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Bumble bee

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Post # 69
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1128 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Don’t take this the wrong way, but this doesn’t sound like a very strong, healthy, mature relationship. It really doesn’t sound  like either one of you is ready to get married…marriage is about communication, trust, respect…Now correct be if I am wrong, but it doesnt sound like any of this is going on….

Maybe however he is “breaking your heart” is his immature way of saying (without saying), he doesn’t want to do this…hes not ready. Maybe he is scared to tell you because of how far into planning you are, but trust me as much as it may hurt even more, if its not meant to be don’t force it, because it will only end up worse in the end.

Post # 70
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1235 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

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@Bao: Thats what I was thinking. Maybe his changes in personality and how hes treating you is his way of trying to get you to break up with him? Because neither of you sound very happy. 

Post # 72
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1092 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Thank you for sharing what’s been going on. I wish you could have started this thread with that then you’d be getting the emotional support you’ve been looking for right now.

To me, it seems like the distance has gotten to you both. I believe he’s acting/saying things different now that there’s distance between you two because you’re relationship is now different. If you were use to being together all the time and now you see each other once a year of course the relationship has taken on a different vibe. How can it be the same as you were when you’re together? You can still love each other, remain bf/gf or fiance/fiance and make plans to marry but it’s going to very different when theres distance between you. Plus he’s making excuses about something, perhaps something with his family?

Post # 74
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21 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2012

What will you do on the situation when you get married though? Will he come to you or you go to him? Or will it be a distant marriage. Do send him an email about how you know he may be stressed and that you are worried from not being able to talk to him. I would never get married if My partner and I couldnt communicate and trust each other. If there was even a doubt in my mind about getting married, i wouldnt do it. Maybe this is telling you something like he isnt ready or something? My views are if you have been together since 09 and still in a long distance relationship then something is wrong. I hated being 1 night without my partner and never want to do it again. If it was so serious and willing to marry, one of you would have moved closer to each other

 

Just my views though. Stay strong and keep us updated x

Post # 75
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1092 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

No matter who said what to whom I think you need to call him tomorrow. Tell him you need to talk to him, heart to heart. Don’t be so prideful and think he should be the one who should call and apologize. If he did something wrong and has a conscience then he’ll say he’s sorry. I will break the tension between my husband and myself or he sometimes he does. When both are stuborn and don’t want to give in it makes both of you wrong. I think you 2 need to learn better communication other than having the attitude “I’ll show him/her”.

I’m just trying to help. Please don’t be so stuborn.

Post # 76
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Can I ask a question and please take no offensive… How old are you? your sentences seem run on and your spelling if off, maybe your just upset. I dont know…. Just asking

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