Post # 1
Facebook strikes again! Yet another friend has become engaged within a year and half of dating and of course posts the announcement on Facebook. Last year it seemed that every friend I had got engaged or married. While I am happy for those getting engaged, it still makes me a little sad to know that I have been with my SO for 4.5 years and I am still waiting. Sometimes I think all my friends will be married at least once before my time comes.
I know I shouldn’t feel this way because my SO has given me a timeline of “few months into 2012” He has told me recently that he is saving for the ring and that he is sticking to the timeline. That’s great news and lately I am nothing more than excited because I know it should be just around the corner. I just hope it happens soon. I have been doing so well lately staying positive, but of course I am anxious for this waiting time to be over. It’s been going on for well over a year now.
This may sound a bit whiny, but I just had to vent to others that would understand.
Thanks so much for reading 🙂
Post # 3
@future.mrs.c: i know how you feel! just found out afriend of mine got engaged. i feel jealous. ugh. feel like its never gona be my turn!
Post # 4
Ever thought to maybe propose to your man?
Post # 5
@future.mrs.c: I can definitely emphatize – granted that I haven’t been with my SO as long as you have been with yours but over the weekend I found out that one of my close girlfriends is getting married in July. She and her SO have been going out for 3 months. Lol at least I’ll get to be a bridesmaid when they legally do it next year.
Post # 6
Big understanding of your frustration here girl!! I don’t want my friends or my SO to know how obsessed I am, so I text my sister everytime I see a proposal pop up on facebook or a ring picture. I’m not kidding you, there has been like 12 friends since December that have gotten engaged! I always text her and say “another one bites the dust” and shes like WTF!? Because there has been so many! So I totally feel your pain, I am always SO over the moon happy for my friends but DANNNNG I really want it to be me also 🙂 Don’t worry! Youre not alone.
Post # 7
What you are feeling is compeltely natural and understandable. My Fiance and I were together for almost three years before he asked me to marry him. I know people that have only been together for less than a year and they become engaged (and I’m not saying it’s wrong in any way, it just is a surprise sometimes)–all I know is that I would be feeling super impatient by now if he hadn’t asked me. This December will be our fifth anniversary, so yes I would be a little jittery about it if I wasn’t engaged yet.
So many of my friends got engaged and married all within the time frame that we are still currently engaged. It feels weird and I do get jealous watching my friends get jobs, their own place, get married, etc. but then I have to remember that my time will come and it’s going to be amazing.
I think our brains our wired (and not in a negative and or selfish way) to want what others have, and by that I mean good things. Like watching an old married couple still hold hands in public and kiss each other, watching your best friend purchase their first home before you, or seeing someone in college get an A on that paper/exam they didn’t work hard on but you did (and you did horrible, for example). I don’t know…I hope that makes sense! Just take a deep breath and smile. Maybe try to take a break from facebook for a while and jot down some good thoughts about yourself and your SO and the good things you are looking forward to–it really is a relief for me sometimes 🙂
Post # 8
i was thinking the same thing! our time will come!
Post # 9
Although I can’t personally relate to being a ‘waiting bee’ (engaged after about a year of dating, married less than a year later) I do understand your pain. My sister waited. And waited. And waited some more (lets put it this way- they had been dating for three years before we started dating, we were married for two years when they were married this past summer). To make you feel better, my ring was (it’s MIA, has been since engagement, we opted not to replace it for the time being, still haven’t) very dainty. I LOVED it, and desperatly still wish I had it back.. Yet my very loved ring received its fair share and then some rude comments about being ‘……cute’. I actually was asked about if I thought it would “grow in a few years”. Some people are really rude. On the other hand, my sister who waited as patiently as she could seriously has one of the most pick your jaw off of the floor and close your eyes before you go blind from all that sparkle , I mean, ugh- STUNNING, rings I have ever seen. Her hubby saved, saved, and then saved some more and literally looked at over 20 stores before he found the ring that he felt deserved to be perched upon her finger for the rest of her life. Although I loved my ring with all my heart and still hope it makes its way home someday, I had sometimes felt like I wouldn’t had minded waiting, or at least talking about/looking at rings first, and having him save some(even though spending buckets of money is very unlike me, there’s just something about the thought of a guy planning it all out)
on a side note, although I personally don’t relate to the engagement ordeal, I feel this same way everytime I see someone announce their pregnancy/post baby bump pictures. It’s not that I’m not happy for them, because I really am very happy for them..it just sends me into a two minute, “I WANT THAT” moment.
All in all, anytime you’re the one waiting – it’s gunna’ be hard seeing other people get what we whole heartedly want. Keep your head up girly and know we’re all rooting for you (= Your day’s coming soon!
Post # 10
I was never ‘waiting’ & was honestly super happy for all my engaged friends when they posted.
Post # 11
Thank you all for your comments!! It is so good to know that there are other ladies out there that understand and relate. I love the supportive Weddingbee ladies!! 🙂
Post # 12
I can relate…we’re almost at 4 years (lived together for 3.5) and although I know it’s coming VERY soon, I feel like I can’t wait! I’m staying busy, but Valentine’s Day doesn’t help much (although I made him promise NOT to propose on V-Day…before or after would be fine)!
Post # 13
I hear you. My boyfriend suggested I stay off Facebook, eat chocolate, drink wine, and be happy tomorrow. There are 3-4 people who I expect to get engaged soon and I don’t want my jealously to ruin their day or the great, almost engaged mood my boyfriend and I have.
Post # 14
I went through that too! It seemed like in the time that I was waiting, EVERYONE got engaged before me. I literally screamed at my computer when the fourth friend got engaged within two weeks and I knew my proposal was imminent. Once it finally happened though, I just felt silly for being so impatient. I guess just try to enjoy your anticipation, it will all be worth it.
Post # 15
I know how you feel! I feel like so many people who haven’t been dating as long are getting engaged and I’m still stuck waiting. It stinks, but I try to get throuhg it by helping them with their wedding!
Post # 16
YES! I have been with my SO for 6.5 years…and have been “waiting” for maybe 6 months. And it has been hard to watch my family and friends announce their engagements. The only thing you MUST continue to tell yourself is, “I must be happy for them, because, when my time comes, I will want them to be happy for me.” And even then, it is still really hard sometimes. LoL.