Post # 1
Ok ladies so I am a medical lab student, I got to school 4 days a week 5 hrs a day. So needless to say I’m close to the girls I go to school with, we have been in all the same classes sense day 1. I have just recently got engaged and received my beautiful 1 ct bezel moissy last weekend. I adore this ring, my Fiance and I researched for hours and hours and looked at 100’s of rings before we carefully choose this one. Its so simplistic and beautiful and just very “us”. We take our relationship very seriously, were totally in love and absolute best friends.
Now the vent…..I have a friend at school, well call her Jen. Jen and her husband were married after 2 weeks. They have a very rocky relationship(verbal and physical abuse as well as infidelity). They have now been married a year and she’s expecting their first child. I was SO excited about discovering Moissanite and I knew they were budget limited and she had mentioned not having a ring. I told her all about moissy and all the research we had done, pretty much how awesome they were and to check it out. She saw my ring and how beautiful it was and said she will. I get a text from her today saying they ordered one. I’m THRILLED for her and tell her to send me a pick asap so I can see her ring. I open the text and its my same ring…..but .5 of a carat bigger. She then went on to say her husband wasn’t going to let his wife walk around with “just” a carat.
I’m hurt and pissed, I tried to be helpful and turn her to moissy NEVER thinking she would do this. Now I get to sit right next to her in class all week w matching rings. To make it better when people are like “Oh they match” she makes sure to say “No mine is bigger”. I’m sure you ladies know how it is to finally be engaged and have that ring on your finger. and be SO excited to show the world your little beauty. I came home in tears, my Fiance said we can exchange it for a different setting if I want. But I don’t feel like I should have to do that! I would never do that to someone, I’d have more tact then that. Its not even that its bigger, that’s neither here nor there. I just feel like she purposely got the “upgraded” version of my ring. Ok vent over 🙁
Ladies please help me get past this, I feel like this has kind of ruined my enthusiasm for my ring a little bit.
Post # 3
She’s an idiot. Ignore her. Her actions should not affect how you feel about your ring.
Some people are just stupid. There’s no way to fix it.
Post # 4
@LilMsMicro: Ok, seriously. I don’t mean to be harsh, but you’re being just a tad little bit ridiculous over something so trivial, don’t you think? You can’t let what other people do affect you! Stop it already.
Post # 5
I cannot BELIEVE this happened. Have you confronted her about it? Don’t let her walk all over you like that, or you’re never going to feel better. Anonymous venting can only help so much.
Post # 6
Wow, how immature of her, I’d be pissed too!
Agree with GroovyHippieChick, there isn’t anything you can do to fix it so you just have to let it go. Or you can totally confront her about it and ask why she chose the same setting. But she’ll probably just say she liked it too or something else less helpful.
It sounds like her relationship is pretty crummy so she’s trying to fill the void with materialistic comforts (as shown through comments like ‘my Fiance wouldn’t let me walk around with 1 ct’ and ‘mine is bigger!’ what is she, 5??), so be reassured that your ring isn’t a filler for a void in your own relationship. Use that as your comforting fact when she’s acting like a child.
Post # 7
I told her when I first saw it that it was just like my ring. She replied “No, mine is bigger”. She just has no class and doesnt see anything wrong with this. I don’t know what else to say or do.
Post # 8
We all get to make choices about whether we let other people push our buttons or not.
I wouldn’t consider her much of a “friend”.
Post # 9
That is a great point Mrs Tahoe, thank you. Your absolutely right and I never calmed down enough to see it that way.
Post # 10
I think you should be the bigger person and ignore her. It seems obvious they didn’t research moissy at all, they just took your suggestion, liked your ring style and ran with it.
She is tacky and rude. So why are you letting her affect you? You can show class by ignoring her.
Post # 11
OK, the whole “mine is bigger” thing is obnoxious, but I really really can’t imagine getting so upset over something like this. I am with @Sunfire.
Post # 12
Wow. That’s pretty Rude. I could forgive it if he just bought her a larger ring on his own accord, but to brag that hers is bigger is pretty mean, especially when you helped her out.
Post # 13
Seriously? I’m honestly shocked at how rude some people are. Maybe you should remind her that before you told her about Moissanite she had no ring. Or next time someone says “oh they match” and she says “no mine is bigger,” you can say “But I had mine first” 🙂 Just kidding…sort of.
Just be proud of the beautiful ring you have. And you know what they say, “imitation is the sincerest form of flattery.” You said she was a friend, but she doesn’t sound like a very good one. I’d ignore her!
Post # 14
Engagement rings are not a pissing contest. Be happy with what you have (ring, man, etc.) and realize that your friend probably isn’t such a great friend, afterall.
Post # 15
Don’t let her stress you out. I don’t think having the same setting is a big deal. Most people have pretty similar settings, if you get right down to it. It is totally rude that she is making comments about size, but bigger isn’t always better! I wouldn’t want a 1.5 carat ring! Try to ignore her and not let it bother you. If it gets more than you can handle you could always make some comment that you wouldn’t want anything bigger because you would be afraid it would look gaudy.
Post # 16
wow, how tactless of her D: I would be so pissed!!