Post # 32
Hah…anytime she said the line, “No, mine’s bigger.” I’d respond with something like, “Mine’s classier :o) “
Ok, I wouldn’t really respond like that, but seriously, this girl is not a friend. Try to let her snarky comments roll off your back and just tell people that your ring is perfect and is exactly what you wanted. Which is the truth!
Post # 33
Eh I’m a b and would have told her that your Fiance wouldn’t ‘just’ marry you without a ring to propose with. Seriously though, she’s being stupid, ignore her.
Post # 34
Ughhhh! So annoying! I wouls ignore her cause she is obviously a loser with no sense of her own style that she had to copy you!
Post # 35
@LilMsMicro: It’s only “upgraded” if you really think it is. If you’re happy with yours, screw her and tell her yours is perfect for you so bigger or not is irrelvant. If you want to piss her off.. get a 2ct haha.
I originally thought the same thing too… but some people will always have a bigger is better mentality no matter what the actual cost is.. and to some a few hundred more in a ring is a lot.
Post # 36
Every time you feel bad or angry about that, just remind yourself that YOU have the better husband…rings can easily be changed but you are clearly the “winner” here. She is in for a life of misery (or so it sounds) and her ring is a tangible object she has that she is using to compensate–you on the other hand have a wonderful man and a future full of happiness ahead. Try to think of it that way.
Post # 37
Ugh she really needs to grow up. Just let it go and remember that she’s not a friend
Post # 38
Maybe also look at it as you have such great taste, she wanted one just like yours? I understand the frustration & you definitely shouldn’t have to switch yours out, but try to remember what the ring represents and the love you and your Fiance have =) Be happy in knowing your marriage will most likely last way longer than theirs 😉
Post # 39
Get over it. There will always be someone with a bigger ring. There will always be people saying stuff (good and bad) about your ring/ comparing rings and all things inbetween.
Post # 40
OP I would be mega pissed too, that really sucks, maybe I am just silly but that would really bug me! I have a girlfriend that does that kind of stuff to me all the time too, I have learnt now to be really cagey about details of things if she says she likes them otherwise I know that in a week she will have the identical thing!
Post # 41
I’m sorry to hear that. She’s not a good firend. But think about it this way, she loved your ring so much she wanted the exact same thing. Yeah, it’s a little bit bigger, but that’s probably because she didn’t want to have to say “Yeah, we have the same ring becuase I copied her”. So that can be your dig next time she pulls her “Yeah, but mine is bigger”. You can say, “She got it bigger just to be able to say that instead of saying she copied my ring right after she saw mine.” It’s immature, I know, but it might just make it stop.
I know we all love to have our rings to be different from someone else’s. Mine is only a carat (smaller than the ring I had from my first marriage, this is my second) and sometimes wish it was a little bigger, but I absolutely love it because it’s from my guy and I know he really looked for the perfect ring for me. Try to keep that in mind- this is the ring you both chose. It means much more to you than what her ring signifies.
Post # 42
I’m normally of the “you don’t own the ring/day/hour/year/dress” thought, but this is insane! Do you own the setting design? No. Other’s will have it. Is she allowed to buy the same one? Sure, even though it’s weird. What makes this a “no no” in my books is the way she is commenting about how she HAD to have bigger and better.
I think what she did is rude, catty and uncalled for. The comments she makes, especially. If you want to continue your relationship, you need to have a frank discussion with her about her comments, attitude and behaviour. If you don’t, I’d say to call off the friendship before you have two identical weddings (hers, of course, costing xx dollars more, *eyeroll*).
Post # 43
She has issues! Carry on regardless!
Post # 44
Her husband abuses her and cheats on her. Be happy with your life.
Post # 45
Her husband won’t let her have ‘only a carat’ and yours won’t let you look like a shallow bitch.
If I met you both and heard her say “mine’s bigger” I’d say “biiiitch” under my breath and say “I like hers (yours) better.” No one is going to think anything other than she’s a petty jealous B if they witness that behaviour.
Also – it sucks now but you don’t live with her and aren’t related to her. You’ll wear the ring forever and it’ll be a funny story to tell people about this crazy girl you used to have a class with.
Post # 46
Don’t worry, OP…as soon as that baby pops out her marriage will be over in no time 😉 She won’t be wearing it much longer after that.