Post # 1
Never thought, I will be going through this! I have been married for 6 months, and last week got results back from gynecologist, I came out positive on chlamydia. I am now getting treated for it, so this lead to finding out that my husband cheated on me while we were engaged weeks oaths, weeks or even days before our wedding. I don’t know what to do? When I first asked him he denied being with another girl. Then he said it was a random girl, that offered herself. I knew he was lying he then confirmed that it was a girl he had met while he was working out of state. I am so upset! But I’m being strong for my baby on the way.
They are even friends on facebook, I should of trusted my intuition when I saw thisgirl was from the same state he had been working in, and worked at the same bank he had opened his acct! And had wrote a few comments in his pg. He said it was only one time but should believe him, he was working out of sTate for several months before our wedding while I was planning our wedding. He came back home just a weeks before our wedding. What should I do bees?
I do love him, and am pregnant. :/
Post # 3
Oh nooooooooo! That is terrible!! I wouldn’t even know where to start. Can you demand you both see a marriage counselor together? Having a 3rd party lead you both through some discussions – what this means for your marriage, for the baby, etc – could help. It gives you a neutral referee, a place to air your feelings (instead of just 24/7 at home) and usually, some concrete exercises or steps to take (which can help you feel more in control after a tailspin like this). So sorry this happened to you 🙁
Post # 4
Oh my. I personally could never stay with someone who cheated on me. I would never be able to regain that trust again, especially if I found out from a positive STD test. I wonder if he would have ever come clean about it had you not contracted the disease.
Im so sorry you’re dealing with this, especially with a baby on the way.
Post # 5
Yes, I don’t think he would had ever confess if it wasn’t for this. We were each others first and only so I don’t know if that had anything to do with him doing this. I think I will be able to better think after I get tested again and come out clean.
Post # 6
@whammy: I think i will definitely try some counseling.
Post # 7
@JulyBride25: wow this is so tragic! I am so sorry this effected your health AND emotions… you are married tho and you have a family now. you have to think about the longevity of this whole situation.
I think you REALLY need to have an honest conversation with him on the motives and EVERYTHING involved in his actions. I don’t think you can reasonably move forward without laying everything completely out on the table.
Honesty is the key to trust… I would be strong and demand answers and try to rebuild.
Post # 8
It just sucks that it took an STD for you to find out! How you both resolve this depends on his willingness to move forward and if he is even sorry! I really hope you don’t stress too much over this issue as the health of your baby is so important!!
Post # 9
Oh my god. I really have no words, I am so so so terribly sorry 🙁 Please take care of yourself & your baby.