Post # 1
Well Bees, this is my first vent. Yesterday I was shopping with my mom for an interview suit to wear on job interviews. I am graduating from College in December and I needed a suit to wear for a job fair. So, me and my mom are checking out at the store, buying my suit, and the sales lady casually asks what I needed a suit for. I told her for an interview. She said, “oh, for a pageant?”, I said no, a job. Then she asked me how old I was, I said 22 and she responded with “no you are not!”. I mean really!? I am SO sick and tired of hearing I look like I’m 16! I have also been asked if I needed a kids menu at a resturant, (I mean I know I don’t look 22, but I’m pretty sure I look older than 12!!!) and every time I tell someone I’m a senior and about to graduate, they always ask me what High school I go to! It is just really frustrating for me. My mom keeps telling me that I will be thankful for this one day, which is true, it just sucks really bad right now! I feel like I don’t get respect or get taken seriously because of how young I look. I’m also nervous about this hindering me being able to get a job in the near future. Have any of y’all had similar experiences? Thanks for letting me vent!!!
Post # 3
I definitely had that problem when up til I turned 22/23 (I’m 23 now). I used to go to the movies with my friend and the two of us would be carded every single time for R-Rated movies. Granted maybe I didn’t look 20/21, but I know I sure as hell looked older than 16. I guess in a way it’s a compliment, but it does get old after awhile. No doubt.
Post # 4
Ahh thats crazy! I’ve always had the opposite problem, in high school people thought I was in college. I don’t think that your age will affect your ability to get a job. I know it sucks, but people like young looking people.
Post # 5
Yep! I’m 23 and Ill have people grab my left hand and say “Omg! You aren’t engaged are you?!” and when I say of course I am they say “But you’re only in high school!” No. I’m not. Honeslty, I don’t think I look like I’m 17. Maybe 20, but still it’s none of their buisiness anyways.
Post # 6
I get that I look 21 or 22 and I am 27. I guess it’s better looking then looking a lot older lol? If you show future employers your resume with credentials or degrees they will likely realize how old you are 🙂
Post # 6
I feel your pain, but I guess the best thing we can do is just enjoy it while we can. I’m a high school teacher and at 23, people always make comments like “I thought you were a student!” or “Can I see your hall pass, missy?” It got on my nerves for a long time, but as long as they don’t doubt my work or potential, I’m okay with it now. Trust me, I’ve been out of school for two years and it does not affect your potential to get a job as long as you carry yourself as though you are mature enough to hold down the position. I tend to wear really conservative clothes and makeup at work to downplay how young I am; it’s all you can do.
Post # 7
Hi! I know how you feel, its annoying, but just hang in there. When I was in my twenties, people always assumed I was at least 5 ys younger then I was. It was a curse but also can be blessing. As for the interviews/job prospects, looking “young” was never a problem for me. I had an awesome resume to give a recruiter the first great impression about my background and skills. And during the face to face interview, go in with the kill and impress them with your poise, maturity (after all, you are a grown woman!), finesse and confidence to pull off the interview. They’ll see your resume and when you graduated school, so that should speak for itself. And i agree with your mom, once you are older, you definitely will appreciate your youthful appearance. I am in my mid-thirties now and still giggle to myself whenever I do get carded when going clubbing or buying alcohol. 🙂 You’ll learn to appreciate it more as you get older. Good luck with the job hunt!
Post # 8
It is annoying, but if it is something that happens often you should probably just get use to it. I am a nurse and still have patients ask me if I’m in high school or if I’ve made it out of middle school. I usually just make some witty remark. I mean you can either just live with it or let it stress you out, which isn’t going to change the fact that you look young.
When I went to look at the venue with my mom the lady kept talking to my mom so my mom finally just said she had to go to the bathroom and then the lady finally started talking to me. I usually just laugh it off.
Post # 9
- Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden
I’m 26 and I still get it all the time – I am constantly asked where I will be starting college…I mostly just ignore it now, and really, why should they comment? I think if you act a certain way, people will treat you that way, regardless of how you look.
Post # 10
I’m 29 btw..
Just last week someone thought I was like 13. Awesome!! haha. It’s usually just a conversation starter. Just show them that you are your age. Usually when people talk to me they quickly learn that I’m not some teeny-bopper!
Post # 11
When I was 23 (and married, btw) some guy to came to our door and asked if my mom was home. lol
Post # 12
I feel your pain. I bought a scratch-off lottery ticket once and got carded. I was 22. And the woman like actually inspected my card… I was like, are you for real??! If I went through all the trouble to get a fake ID, would I really use it to buy a scratch-off lottery ticket?? I also get carded going into rated R movies on a regular basis. It’s pretty ridiculous.
Post # 13
I haven’t had that problem in a long time but people use to think my little sister was my older sister. And my little sister was 8 years younger then me. I still have the age problem ever so often because most people won’t believe me when I say I am 27, most still think I am only like 21 or 22.
Post # 14
I get it a lot, too (24 and married, here). Up until recently, I have always been carded, and I’ve often had sales clerks and such make comments when I go to buy stuff for specific occasions (Like when I bought a prom dress in HS and the lady said I didn’t look only enough to go to prom… clearly, I’ve always had this issue)
Recently it’s gotten a little bit better, but not by much.
A few weeks ago I had a couple college girls come to our apartment selling magazines for something, and they asked to speak to the lady of the house. When I told them that I was the lady of the house, they told me I looked like I was 17. Then when I told them that I wouldn’t be able to buy anything without asking my husband first, they said “Well, what about calling dad?” SERIOUSLY? My dad hasn’t paid for anything for me in like 4 years! It was really off-putting.
Post # 15
I have this problem all the time! Just last night I was trying to get into a pub in London and the bouncer wouldn’t let me in because he thought my Texas Drivers License had to be fake since it said I was 23. And I’ve gotten the “wait you are getting married? You can’t be older than 16” at least 5 times.