(Closed) Im so tired of being crapped on by his family!(long rant)

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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3758 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

wow that is horrible… and your SO doesn’t say anything to his mom? I am sorry but I am the type of person that would have told her to suck it by now… I don’t know how you could just put up with it lol. I cannot just put up with that kinda craziness.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@mrpatrick1: why do you stick around for that? I wouldn’t go near them if that is what they are doing! you don’t need that crap 🙁

Post # 7
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1231 posts
Bumble bee

I hate to say it, but is your SO worth all the fights? I mean if he won’t stand up for you now, it probably won’t change and you could form some resentment if he is choosing her mom over you all the time. I’m sorry you have to put up with that, I wouldn’t and the first few times probably would have made me rethink the relationship.

Post # 9
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1325 posts
Bumble bee

This HAS to be worked out before you get married! I’m serious! It only gets worse!

My guy and I have problems with his family as well. A lot of the problem is actually him! He’s such a sweet person, and that’s the problem.

So yes, your SO’s parents have issues and they are a problem, but if you work it out between your guy and you and take care of his behavioral problems (being a doormat) they won’t be a problem anymore.

You should not have to take crap like that and your SO shouldn’t allow it to go on. End of story. Feel free to stand up for yourself and if your guy has a problem with it then essentially he’s ok with you being treated like crap.

Post # 10
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3758 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@mrpatrick1: I just don’t know why he isn’t sticking up for you… have you talked to him about it?

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@mrpatrick1: you NEED to have a serious talk with him… there is no reason that he shouldn’t be definding you unless you are in the wrong. he definitely shouldn’t let them do that crap to you… as far as the cars and the house, that is kinda a tough situation because it is technically their property so you don’t have much of a say. there is a good chance they will say something like “if you don’t like it you can move out”

Post # 16
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91 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Hunny, I agree with the other bees–He is only allowing a more antagonistic relationship by allowing his family to walk all over you just because they feel you’re not “blood”. He needs to grow a vertebrae with his family because in the end when you are married–your spouse comes first–that’s the immediate family and it will only grow worse overtime and you will end up miserable and unhappy because his family is driving a wedge between you two–and you want to know something, that’s what they want. All they want to do, it appears, is to control and have power. I know the feeling, different scenario but in all it’s the same. He needs to back up his statements because in the end who does he really want to be with?

It may be so that it’s “their property” but you are also renting from them are you not? So therefore you do have some say in that situation, but your guy should be backing you up also.

 

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