- 4 years ago
- Wedding: April 2016
Oh bees, I’m sad today. My cousin who I grew up with, once was my BEST friend, has always been on the bigger side in regards to his weight (and I am in NO way shaming him or anyone for their weight. I’m simply stating this for a background). His parents have also been heavier, but his mom recently underwent gastric bypass and is living a much healthier lifestyle.
****A little back story…my cousin, let’s call him Chad, moved from our home state to another state 8 hours away when his parents divorced and his mom remarried when we were in our early teens. We stayed in touch and continued to talk everyday and stayed very close. When he turned 18, he moved back to our homestate and moved into a house his grandparents were renting to him. Our friendship picked back up and we were inseparable.
I got engaged at age 21, and our wedding was set for when I was 24. When we were 23, Chad ended up moving back to be with his mom during her gastric bypass surgery and stayed there.
He was going to be my “man of honor” in my wedding and we had everything planned for him to come back, get fitted for his tux, etc. About a month before he was supposed to come back, he started ignoring my texts and calls. This was such a slap in the face because we were BEST friends. I had no idea what went wrong. After the wedding, he slowly started texting me that he missed me and was sorry about the wedding but he couldn’t get time off work. Okay whatever. We occasionally will text, but we are no where near as close or friendly as we once were.****
He moved back again with his mom when she and the stepdad got divorced. This was last summer. He didnt tell me he moved back until last fall. He would make plans to hang out with me but would bail last minute or just not show up. I was so upset over this but Darling Husband said I need to just let it go, that this wasn’t a healthy friendship anymore and it was just causing me to feel sad.
Last night I was scrolling through Facebook and I saw that he was tagged in a few pictures. I started scrolling through when I saw a man, (again I’m not trying to offend ANYONE) who was extremely obese and looked soooo worn down. My stomach dropped. It was Chad. I kept staring at the pictures and I could not figure out how this was my cousin, my best friend. His profile picture looks just like the guy I know, and I can’t figure it out how he went from a good looking guy who takes care of his appearance to someone who looks so, so sad and lost. I broke down and felt physically sick.
I want to message him and ask him how he is, if he’s okay, give him some words of encouragement and love, but I don’t know how he would respond. Any advice, bees? I want to help him.