- 8 years ago
- Wedding: September 2010
My Boyfriend or Best Friend and I are in a “long” distance relationship. (Live a little over 1 hour from each other). For the longest time, we used to see each other on average four days a week. We’d often see each sort of mid week for a few hours like on a Tuesday or Wednesday evening and then we’d often spend Friday evening through Sunday evening together. However, for the past few weeks, I’ve only been seeing him an average of once a week on one of the weekend days. This has been really, really hard on me because I’m used to seeing him alot more than that. (I know some of you bees only get to see your boyfriend once every few weeks or so, so I realize it could be much worse). Still though, it’s been really hard for me to see him so much less than what I’m used to. He claims that he’s been really busy with taxes, working on this new property he bought, etc. these past few weeks and say that’s why he hasn’t been available to see me more. Even though I was sad, I’ve tried to be understanding about it, but I just don’t know how much longer I can stand this situation because now I’m wondering is he not seeing me more JUST because he’s been so busy, or has he just not WANTED to see me more?
Thursday night when he called to say good night, we made plans for him to come pick me up after work and bring me back to his house for the weekend. Long story short, he didn’t come pick me up. Had some excuse about being too tired to do all that driving in one day. (It actually would be kind of far out of his way to come pick me up from work and then bring me back to his house as that really would be a lot of driving on his part. However, he could have driven to my house and then just spent the night here and then had us go back to his house in the morning for the rest of the weekend).
So, then he tells me last night that he’s got to go to the mechanics in the morning, but he’ll plan on getting to my house around noon. Okay, sounds good. He calls back later in the day and says that he has to show his new property to some potential tenants, work on his taxes, etc. and that he has a bunch of stuff to do but he’ll be down later to see me. He said he’d come see me right after he was done showing the potential tenants that property which he finished doing about 2 hours ago. He called a little while ago and asked if he could just see me tomorrow and I got all upset because it’s like he’s basically rescheduled our plans two days in a row now. I’ve missed him terribly all week and was totally looking forward to seeing him tonight. He didn’t even have any real reason for not seeing me tonight other than he’s really tired. Okay, I believe he might be really tired but doesn’t it seem kind of sh*tty of him to make me plans with me and then basically cancel/reschedule two days in a row? I told him I’ll be really upset if he doesn’t come see me tonight. We basically got in an argument about it (over the phone). I hung up on him (which I know I shouldn’t have done) but felt like he was being a real jerk. Have tried calling him back several times but he’s not answering.
Like I said, we used to see each other on average 4 times a week. At the beginning of our relationship, we like a lot of people had ALOT of sex. Often a couple times a day every day that was saw each other. I know that’s not reasonable to expect it to stay at that level of intensity/frequency, & eventually it’s trickled down to an average of maybe 3 times a week. Lately, since we’ve only been seeing each other on average once a week, we’ve only been having sex once a week, and I’ve been missing it terribly. Not only because it feels great but also because I miss that intimacy with him.
I’ve been telling my Boyfriend or Best Friend alot lately how much I miss him and how it’s been really hard lately only seeing him once a week or so. He knows I’m going to be very sad and very upset if he doesn’t come to see me tonight, but it looks like he’s not going to come see me anyways.
I’m so sad bees. I just don’t know what to do. I just honestly don’t know how much longer I can stand this whole long distance thing if I’m only going to be able to see him once (or if I”m “lucky” twice a week). He knows I don’t want to live together unless and until we’re engaged, so this just makes it even harder that things don’t really seem to be progressing and we’re not engaged yet.