(Closed) I’m so upset…

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

With my son’s visitation with his dad, if his weekend falls on a “special” day, then that weekend gets switched to another one so that my son can be at the special event. I’m sure they will be able to work something out like that. Try no to stress too much and hopefully it all works! πŸ™‚

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

That’s what happened with my nephew.  His mother knew that I wanted him to be the ring bearer in my wedding for 15 months before the wedding.  On the Thursday before my wedding I had my maid of honor call her cousin (nephew’s mom’s boyfriend at the time) to ask him why she was being a B about the situation.

There’s a happy ending for me, though.

I ended up calling baby momma and telling her how much it mean to me to have him in my wedding and that he’d already been fitted for a little tuxedo and everything.  I explained that in 15 years I didn’t want to have to tell him why he wasn’t in any of my wedding pictures and that the thought of it just really broke my heart.

She decided that as long as he stayed with me or my mom, we could have him for the weekend.  My mom went and picked him up the next day.

I hope that your ending is happy like mine.  I can tell you that having my nephew and my neice in my wedding was one of the best parts.  They were the bravest I’ve ever seen them–they made it ALL the way down the aisle without a tear!

And since I’m so proud of them, I just have to share a picture!  One of them is of them with their dad (my nephew is laughing at me, but it looks like he’s crying!) and the other is of them walking down the aisle.  I hope you get pictures like this!!!

 

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Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

This is terrible! Everytime my Ring Bearer sees me he reminds me that he’s incharge of our rings when we (my Fiance, his uncle) get married!! He’s 5…not stupid. He’s obviously excited about being given such a special place in your wedding. His dad would be heartless to take that away from him.

I’m sure it will get sorted out though. I’ll keep you & your situation in my prayers tonight. I hope everything works out for both the little guy & his mom, as well as for your wedding. (hugs)

Post # 8
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1765 posts
Buzzing bee

I don’t think when your sister brings it up that a judge would be so heartless even if the father and his family could be πŸ™‚  Don’t worry! 

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2010

UGH!  Unfortunately d*c*s like that CAN get away with such disgusting acts because the “LAW” says it’s ok.  IMAGINE…after not having been around in so many years.  I’m disgusted just thinking about it. 

Anyway, I hope that things work out for the best and keep a situation like this on the back burner for when his father has a special function and it falls on a weekend that belongs to YOUR family. 

My son’s father is really good about things like that.  He gets our son (13 years old) every other weekend for the past 11 years.  If I need to switch up, he never argues…if he needs to switch up, I never argue.  Arguing is never good for the children.

This dude NEEDS to grow up!

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I don’t think the judge will say no. His dad tries to say no but my lawyer makes sure it happens. Just kind of the way it works. I really don’t think there will be judge that won’t allow it, especially since it has been planned for a long time.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

πŸ™ πŸ™ It’s heartbreaking to see children being used as a weapon against the other parent – they don’t deserve that. I hope your story has a happy ending!

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I was in the same situation with my niece…my stepsister brought the issue to court and had the judge tell her scumbag ex that he MUST let her be with us that day or he would be in violation of court order.  He can make up that date another time.   People who use children in a situation like this disgust me.  I hope it works out well for you

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