(Closed) I’m sooo upset

posted 11 years ago in Family
Post # 3
531 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Sorry that she is trying to ruin your super exciting news.  Its simple, she is just jealous.  Stay upbeat and she is the one who is losing out.

Post # 4
7774 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I’m sorry you feel that she has changed. There could be many reasons for her change in attitude. Jealousy, too much wedding talk, stress, etc. Maybe there is something going on in her life that you don’t know about?

There was one thing I was confused about though. Why did she have to call you when you got engaged? Shouldn’t you call her and break the news and then she can congratulate you? I don’t quite see how that was on her.

Regardless, enjoy yourself. If you guys are really close, she’ll come around eventually.

Post # 6
1565 posts
Bumble bee

Definitely sounds like she’s jealous. You said she has a boyfriend – I’d bet anything she’s dying for him to propose, and jealous that you got engaged first. It’s unfortunate, but if she’s been waiting for a long time (or even if she hasn’t but still really wants to get engaged), that would definitely explain her behavior. I think it’s pretty common for  this to happen to newly-engaged ladies. I am really lucky that most of my friends are not even close to being interested in marriage, so I haven’t encountered anything like this. 

If you two are close, maybe you could address the problem head on? Say something like “I’ve noticed that you’ve seemed pretty upset since I got engaged, and it really hurts me to see you like this. If I’ve done something to upset you, please let me know.”

Post # 7
2640 posts
Sugar bee

I agree with GirlWithARing.  It’s ll about jealousy, especially since you said she has a boyfirend (not husband or fiance).  It’s incredibly common.    If she continues to be a bear you could talk to her.  Otherwise, I would probably try to let it slide.

Post # 8
972 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

This whole wedding process has taught me alot and im very grateful to have this experience in my life.  Weddings brings out the best and worst in people and especially loved ones.  It sux but its reality.  Ever since my sister dropped out of being my Maid/Matron of Honor via email,(for no reason what so ever)  I’ve learned to deal with other people’s selfishness and not let it affect me.  Just keep that smile and give her back all the anger and dont carry it on yourself, this is your time and it only comes once!

Post # 10
80 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

People deal with jealousy differently; perhaps she’s been bitten by the green-eyed monster. Let her know she’s special to you and that you appreciate the time she DOES take out of her schedule to spend with you–hopefully she’ll take that as a cue to act like an adult and be more civilized. 

And btw, if someone said that about my ring, I’d punch them (: but that’s just me. LOL.



Post # 11
196 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I agree that it’s possible that your cousin might be jealous (heck, maybe even likely), but why don’t you invite her out to lunch and ask her what’s going on? 

It’s possible that what is going on has nothing to do with you…I know as a bride I often think that people are really into my wedding, but I’ve heard rumors that people have things outside of that going on in their lives. 🙂

If you guys were close and you consider her a friend, I think you should try to find out what is going on.  

Post # 13
1067 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Aw, she’s probably so jealous and that’s why she’s acting up. Maybe you should just sit her down and bring it to her attention. She’s going to try to get away with this and more so maybe you should tell her now that you know what’s she’s doing and you aren’t having it no more.

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