Post # 1
Is anyone else been surprised by the number of “you should probably do this” or “you know you have tos” others have tossed about their weddings???? I am basically getting sick of explaining to others that it is OUR wedding and we are doing it OUR way. Mainly I have decided to have a kid free reception (only my two kids and my two nephews) Are invited) as they are all very young and I was surprised by people who have said “if you inviting your own kids you should probably invite other children.” Umm Why should I invite a cousins children who I have never metjust because I am inviting children directly related to myself and future hubby????
Or the old you should probably invite this distance relative cause you went to their wedding. Yep I went to their wedding 15 years ago and have barely spoken to them since!!!
I dont know if other brides are being made feel like bridezillas just because they want their special day to be for them!!!! I feel like I am being judged just based on ideas we are throwing about in the planning stages!
The other thing is I am getting flak over is letting my bridesmaid pick their own dresses (with a few guidelines that I have stated such as colour, fabric and price – as I am paying) and having a naked uniced wedding cake Because it’s not traditional!
Post # 3
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
It’s an issue pretty much every bride runs into. Weddings, like pregnancies, seem to bring out the “advice” giver in everyone. As long as you provide a comfortable environment for your guests with palatable food and drinks, and you don’t break up social units (e.g invite a husband but not his wife), you’re good to go. Start practicing the art of the non-commital phrase coupled with a smile, and learn how to change the subject quickly. This tactic will safe you al lot of grief. “I’ll take your suggestion under advisement” is all you need to say.
Post # 4
@OzRusticBride: You just have to learn not to let these things bother you. Most of them are said with the best of intentions. I’ll bet that in the past you have made such statements yourself- maybe not in connection to a wedding, but in other areas of life.
” Thanks, we’ll take that into consideration.”
Post # 5
@OzRusticBride: Ugh. People need to butt out. The wedding police aren’t going to shut down your wedding because your cake isn’t iced.
The subject of children can be touchy, but so long as you’re consistent (children and nieces/nephews only) you’re fine. I’m Australian and I’ve been to a few weddings where closely related children were invited and others weren’t.
Post # 6
YOUR CAKE WON’T HAVE FROSTING?! YOUR MARRIAGE IS CLEARLY DOOMED!
I feel like that is how all people react to ANYTHING related to a wedding. With complete insanity!