- 4 years ago
Let me start this by saying that my BF and I have a very good relationship. He knows how badly I want to marry him, and that I will be with him no matter what, but I feel that a conversation that happened yesterday is being taken the wrong way. We have been together for four years and have been talking about getting married pretty much the whole time that we have been together, it is something that we both want to do soon, its just a matter of time.
Ok, so a few days ago my BF had a show at one of the local bars, after his set one of the owners of another bar was begging him to play next weekend and gave him the choice of playing September 6th or 7th, he picked the 6th. Now normally this wouldnt be a problem at all, but September 6th is my 26th birthday!!! He figured that since we were going out the 7th with friends that it would be ok to play later at night on the 6th. This really bugged me at first since I wont be able to go watch him or really hang out with him since I will be at school for most of the day and have school on saturday (I’m in beauty school, so thats why I have school on Saturday)
Once I told him that I was upset that he didnt check with me first, he said that he was sorry to the moon and back and would make it up to me. He really is a wonderful boyfriend, he just doesnt think sometimes… guys *sigh* lol
Anyways, here is where I think I messed up. I kind of took advantage of the situation and said that I had a propositon for him. I told him that I was sick of him pussyfooting around and that once the new ring gets ordered (another story in its self) that I wanted him to make an effort to get the engagement rolling. He said ‘ok, will do!’ I told him to set a timeline (sooooo bad, I know!) and he said a month after its in his hand. I was over the moon when I read this! Those feelings were quickly dashed when I went back to class and was talking to my friend about it and one of the new girls, who I met three days ago was listening to our conversation, butted in and made a comment that I was MAKING my BF marry me, as if it was against his will!
Now I feel like crap for ever sending the text and when I was talking to him about it he brought up the word ultimatum. He said that it might seem like I was giving him once since I said to set a timeline That was the last thing that I would ever want to do and feel like a put a huge damper on the whole thing. He has told me over and over again that he loves me more than anything, cant wait to marry me, and not to worry about it. I dont know what bugs me more, the fact that the word ultimatum was even said or the fact that some girl who I barely even know acted like I was forcing him to do this and he didnt have a say in it.
Clearly I’m not having a good waiting week. I just felt like typing all this out would make me feel better, high five to you if you read it all!
How is your waiting week going? Have you ever had something like this happen before?