Post # 1
So this is what being nice gets me!
Backstory: I’m recently married, doggie just passed away:(, husband is really taking it hard, he’s going through a rebellious phase at the moment even got a huge tattoo in memory of our baby ( very unlike him) Needless to say, I am worried about him and grieving myself. Not in a good place at the moment.
Before I married my husband I used to frequent the gym by my house and befriended a few people along the way. Among them is the lady that sent me this email. She is anorexic ( acknowledges she has a problem) childless, jobless, unhappily married, extremely bored and spends 5 hours at the gym because in her words “it’s the only place I can socialize”. Feel sorry for this whacko so I agreed to keep in touch. Keep in mind while reading below We spoke last week on the phone, before Bogie passed.
at the moment my response is a big ol’ F**K You!! if you were me, How would you respond to this email? hopefully somebody will make me laugh here..I could really use it
** My iPad refuses to accept my new email address so I had to screenshot this from my phone **
Post # 3
Omg I didn’t know about Bogie, I’m so so sorry! I just read your post in the other thread and now I’m crying, my heart is breaking for you guys.
As far as the email goes, I would just give her a very short polite reponse. Let her know about Bogie and you will talk soon. Just ignore the crazy stuff she wrote!
Post # 4
I’d just cut her out of my life. Nobody needs friends like that.
Post # 5
Ummm. yeah. She sounds like one of my friends from highschool. Honestly I got so fed up with her B.S. (she unfriended me on FB once over basically this same issue – I wasn’t trying to contact her enough), we agreed to just be acquaintances, essentially. I didn’t have time to put in as much effort as she wanted, and she was frustrated with my inability to do so, so we just agreed to decrease the level of our friendship. And it’s worked out fine. Not sure how you should respond to this email though, as she sounds a little unstable. I think maybe just say that you’ve been going through a lot this week and while you appreciate that she would like more effort on your part, you have other commitments and cannot necessarily guarantee that you will be able to put in as much effort as she seems to desire. Oh and that this is no reflection on her or how much you like her, just that you have other commitments that require your time and attention.
Post # 6
Hm. My first instinct would be to respond that you are quite busy with your life outside of the gym, and that you feel like she might be reading too much into a casual acquaintence.
But…if she’s crazy? IDK. :
Post # 7
@Birdi: I LOVE it when people say, “I don’t want to sound like a bitch, but…” then ramble off a bunch of rude things.
Maybe she always pursues friendships with people because she can’t take the hint that she sounds like a complete whack job. It sucks that she lives such a sad life, but it’s not your job to be friends with her, or to take care of her – especially when you and your husband are going through such a difficult time.
I would send her a short, bordering on curt response. “Hi Betty. Thanks for the email. My husband and I just lost our dog, and we’re going through a very rough time. I’ll contact you when I’m ready to talk about the situation. Thanks.” Then just don’t contact her again.
I’m so sorry you and your husband are going through this. My thoughts are with you both!
Post # 8
I just wouldn’t respond and move on. She doesn’t sound like a friend.
Post # 9
Sounds like a friend I had. I cut my losses and stopped talking to her.
Post # 10
she’s def a crazy clingy type. I’d do one of two things – 1. don’t respond or 2. just say sorry, my dog died and life has been crazy. hope to see you at the gym soon.
Post # 11
@Birdi: it sounds like she sent this after having too much to drink and started feeling sorry for herself; so of course she takes it out on the people who are the closest.
i would tell her about your dog and that yes, indeed, you have been busy. is this a person that you want to remain friends with? if not, ignore it.
Post # 12
@Birdi: She sounds like she has some screws loose to me. I would not respond and just act like she dropped off of the face of the earth. BUT if I did respond I’d say, “That’s fine, this “marraige” is over. Have a nice life.” and block her.
Post # 13
I just read this. I am soo sorry to hear you lost Bogie : ( I know we were all hoping for a better outcome. Bogie is in a better place running like mad with his other angel friends <3
Now let me move on to the crazy bitch you were trying to be nice to. My response would be “sometimes people have family issues that they aren’t open to discuss with aquaintenances, or ready to talk about yet. With that in mind, I choose to keep a circle of friends that understands that, and don’t make things harder on me. Your behavoir indiciates that you do not qualify as friend material, and I would appreciate it if we kept a cordial distance if we run into eachother in the future. Please lose my number.
Post # 14
You have bigger, better things to worry about. Cut this lunatic out of your life because no one needs this kind of headache.
Post # 15
@Birdi: don’t reply to her. She’s nuts!
Post # 16
I’m so sorry about your dog 🙁
Definitely cut ties, don’t keep friends because you are sorry for them. She sounds toxic.
Edit: Don’t ignore her, let her know that you no longer want to stay in contact. These kinds of people tend to go a little loopy when ignored.