Post # 17
Sadly she sounds very ill. I would suggest she seek help for her issues and explain that you are happy to have a relationship at the gym (and maybe the occasional lunch) but you’re very busy with your own life at the moment and don’t have time for that type of friendship. I mean, you’re grieving the loss of a family member, only someone unwell would be demanded your time and attention right now.
Also, I’m so sorry to hear about your dog.
Post # 20
“When someone is happily married with many responsibilities, they are unable to make acquaintances their top prioirty. Before you make assumptions, perhaps you should first ask how someone is doing and wait for a response. You never what others are dealing with and assuming that the world centres around your head is a very limiting perspective.
“In the future, please don’t feel obligated to call or email me. If I wanted to speak with you, you’re right, I would make the effort. Given that I don’t, I would hazard a guess that you were smart enough to figure that out – folks who want to talk to you actually do. Perhaps you should reread your email if you can’t figure out why they don’t.”
You don’t need her in your life and she doesn’t need to know about your troubles or your dog.
Post # 21
First of all, I am so so sorry for your loss and the hard time you are going through. If I lost my fur-baby I would be a complete and utter mess! Second of all, this “friend” needs to get some help and her response to your lack of contact has zero to do with you and much more to do with her illness and her current place in life. Ignore it. Focus on your and your husband and get yourself in order.
Post # 22
This lady is from crazy town. Send her a message back that says “thanks for the maritial counseling, but I didn’t need it or appreciate it right now. I will never call or email again.”
Post # 23
I wouldn’t even respond to it; my time is very valuable.
Post # 24
Aww, I didn’t know he died. I’m sorry. 🙁
What I want to say “Dog died, fuck you.”
What you should say “” <—nothing, then ignore it.
Post # 25
My response would be:
Thank you for making your feelings clear. You did not succeed in your endeavor to not sound like a b*tch in your previous email. That said, I have decided that I’m not actually interested in keeping in touch with you. To answer your question, my dog passed away earlier this week. Please do not attempt to contact me in the future.
Post # 26
I too would just ignore her altogether and block her. When you are dealing with crazy/borderline/ people like this, the key words to remember are DON’T ENGAGE. Don’t suggest that she get help (that will inflame the situation), don’t argue unless you want endless arguing, don’t open yourself up and spend your limited energy resources to dealing with this woman.
Post # 27
Sorry about your pup. 🙁
Yeesh. Drama queen. It’s apparently not obvious to this woman that you aren’t close friends.
Also, the fact that she apparently always has to initiate contact with everyone else should be a clue to her that perhaps the way she talks and acts is offensive or annoying in some manner, but some people have a hard time taking a hint…
I don’t know what exactly I’d say, but I definitely wouldn’t want to deal with her anymore.
Post # 28
real friends don’t need to call/email everyday to stay good friends. She is going over the top.
I would politely and briefly tell her about the dog and minimize contact with her.
Post # 29
@Birdi: First of all, I’m sorry about your dog. That’s terrible. I’m a dog owner and I’ve been there so I can relate.
As for this woman, do you actually value her friendship, or are you only friends with her because you pity her? If you really want to be her friend, respond politely and explain that you’ve been busy due to issues with the dog. If you’re only her pity-friend, I think you should still explain that you’ve been busy with the dog (I mean, she *asked* how the dog was, so you can give her that) and then let her know that you agree you aren’t able to give her the attention a friendship requires so it would be better to end contact.
Post # 30
Aww Thank you:).
I know. why do people say that? …I don’t mean to sound like a bitch but ….insert bitchy words …
I probably should respond with what you suggest but I don’t feel like being nice to her anymore. She actually yelled at me at the gym one time when I suggested she go home and relax after she complained endlessly of being tired. I wanted to say ” Yes, I believe you’re tired, you’ve spent 2 hours on this elliptical and you weigh all of 80 lbs. I’m amazed you’re still alive!” But I kept my mouth shut and smiled. *head slap*
you’re assumption is correct..she’s a clingy weirdo. My husband thinks she’s attracted to me HA!
Post # 31
@Birdi: I don’t even understand the gist of this message. I give her an F. Poor writing style, no hard evidence, does not allow her opening statement to flow nicely throughout the entirety of the email.
I would just not reply and not call or do anything. If she is just an acquaintance and already this much work to deal with, I would pretend I never met her.