(Closed) I'm speechless! How would you respond to this email if you were me?

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Post # 47
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

  I’m very sorry about your doggie ๐Ÿ™

 

Post # 48
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

Please copy and paste the following:

Hey Karen Carpenter,

Sorry I was too wrapped up in reality to reach out and contact you for another depressing installment of your dried up, saltine licking, obsessive workout regime existence….but in the real world, friends don’t count who called who first like so many calories….so I think I’m really pretty unworthy of this relationship and you should just move on…because frankly…you can do better….

Good luck with that….

 

Post # 49
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Birdi:  I’m so sorry about your puppy!  =(  Like a million =(  *hugs*

 

Do you have to keep going to the gym with this girl?  If so, I would respond with something like, “Oh man, I’m sorry if I haven’t been responsive.  My dog actually passed away and we’ve been really busy with the wedding and dealing with that.  See you at the gym!”  

That way you’ve explained yourself, not been rude, and sort of just acted like it’s no big deal.  Hopefully it will difuse the situation and you won’t have to worry about her acting even more crazy when you see her!

 

Post # 50
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Ew, no wonder she’s alone! I would not respond. Or just respond with a quick sentence:

Hi, My dog passed away. Thanks for your concern.

 

Really sorry about your loss!

Post # 51
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

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@Birdi:  I am so so sorry about your dog! ๐Ÿ™ That is so horrendously sad. 

This woman is clearly crazy. I would do my best to distance myself from her if I were you. She’s a lunatic. 

Post # 52
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1998

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@vorpalette:  +1

Post # 53
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1998

I am so sorry for your loss.

Post # 54
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

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@Nona99:  No matter how crazy someone is, it is not cool to make fun of their eating disorder. 

 

OP: I’m very sorry about the loss of your dog. :(. I would simply write back to her that you have been grieving the loss of your dog and that you simply don’t have the time to be the kind of friend she needs, and that you are better off remaining aquaintences at the gym.  

Post # 55
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Newbee

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Post # 56
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@Birdi:  I am SO sorry about your baby ๐Ÿ™ And that girl seems like a piece of work. She obviously has issues, so I’d just send her back “I’m sorry to hear that you feel that way. I do try my best but, as you said, I have a lot on my plate” and move on. Hugs!

Post # 57
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Bee Keeper

I think her request is reasonable if it is true (that is, if she really always does the reaching out. That isn’t good balance. If you haven’t told her that she’s contacting you too often, there’s no reason to assume she knows how often you want to be contacted. That’s a boundary that has to be negotiated together among every pair of friends, sometimes explicitly).

However, you said you’re only friends with her because you felt sorry for her, called her a wacko, and described her life situation in a way that shows you clearly judge her negatively for it. All these things make it very clear: You should not be her friend. Just tell her you’re sorry, but you can’t be a real friend to her. Leave it at that and leave each others’ lives.

Post # 58
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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@Nona99:  ummm yah that’s not remotely funny. Trying a little too hard with that one 

Post # 59
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@Birdi:  I’m sorry about your pup.

In regards to the crazy gym lady, now you know why she doesn’t have a real life or friends in that real life so she has to go to the gym for 5 hours a day to socialize. You can ignore it and act like nothing happened when you see her again at the gym or you can respond “I’m sorry you feel that way. I haven’t been to the gym in some time because my pup died and I have been dealing with that. Can’t wait to catch back up with you at the gym on Friday.”

Post # 60
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’d send a quick response that I was blocking her e-mail and phone number.

 

So so sorry about your dog. ๐Ÿ™

Post # 61
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

I don’t know how I would actually respond, but, if I was feeling sassy:

 “Honey, a friendship isn’t like a marriage, a friendship is like dating.  When you’re dating, if a guy doesn’t call it means He’s not that into you.  Take the hint.”

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