(Closed) I'm speechless! How would you respond to this email if you were me?

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Post # 62
5867 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

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@Overjoyed:  “You did not succeed in your endeavor to not sound like a b*tch in your previous email.”


Post # 63
634 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Birdi:  I have a crazy friend like this.  I have choose to no longer acknowledge her messages and resorted to blocking her altogether.  Sometimes this is all you can do.

Post # 64
7638 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Birdi:  I’d respond with a brief, “Sorry I haven’t been in touch, but my dog died and it’s been a rough few weeks. I’m not sure yet when I’ll be in touch”.

Post # 65
2782 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

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@MrsWBS:  yeah. this.

Post # 66
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Post # 67
4369 posts
Honey bee

I’m so sorry about Bogie Cry

I’d email your friend “I’m sorry you feel that way. Best of luck.” And leave it at that. Or, just ignore her. She’s crazy.

Post # 68
5398 posts
Bee Keeper

Ok clearly this woman has issues, but hot damn some of these responses are mean. I feel sorry for this woman, not want to make fun of her and her shitty life. I wish people had more compassion for those who have problems that they may not understand. 

That said, OP you have zero obligation to be friends with this woman and she’s clearly a little crazy, and you’re totally justified in not wanting to hang out with her (and I’m sure you have done nothing but be nice!). What I would do is simply respond with something like:

“things have been really hectic for me lately, and I’m dealing with some personal issues. At the moment, I don’t think I have the time and energy to invest in a new friend. We can catch up when we cross paths at the gym. Take care!”

I like to spare people’s feelings. As they say, you can’t judge a person until you’ve walked a mile in their shoes. 

Also, I’m so sorry about your dog. I purposely avoided reading your previous thread because I’m seriously sensitive about animals. Losing one is so hard 🙁

Post # 69
9184 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

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@Nona99:  What 
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@MrsWBS:  said.

Post # 70
232 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My well-thought-out, intelligent, and mature response would be:

“Swerve, bitch!”


Post # 71
5949 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

Geez momentary lapse in judgement….we’ve got gun threats, name calling and all kinds of nasty on here…but I’m the bad guy..on seriously, take it easy.

Post # 72
2076 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - British Columbia

@Birdi:  So sorry to hear about the loss of your dog! 🙁


Your acquaintance needs to seek out help: professional counselling/medical help for anorexics. She needs to go to support groups; etc. She needs a doctor, not a friend. The disorder would go beyond just the eating; it could be how addicted she is to controlling things herself.

If I were you, I would reply with the following:
Do you know what true friends do? They don’t put down another friend because he/she is busy. Good friends can always pick up where they last left off. By the way, I found your email rather hurtful as we just lost our dog, my best friend. Now, I guess I will lose you too.

All the best,

P.S. Please seek Dr. _____ for professional help.

Post # 74
1275 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I think the fact that you felt sorry for her and befriended her against all warnings should be a lesson. I think when it comes to friendships, even though you tried so hard, it’s not real or worth it for either of you. I think this woman sounds sad and even though you had good intentions, it’s best for you both to not be friends. Plus, she doesn’t sound like she is adding any value to your life. 


More importantly, it’s heartbreaking to read about your loss. I hope you are holding up well and I’m so sorry for your loss. 

Post # 75
777 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

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@Birdi:  OH NO!! I’m so sorry to hear about your baby 🙁 hugs to you and your hubby!

Post # 76
954 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Honestly, I would just delete the message and hope she doesn’t call or email again.



im also quite taken aback with the person who thinks making fun of eating disorders is funny. Maybe this forum isn’t a good fit for them. Reddit may be more up her alley.

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