Post # 77
I don’t think she did anything wrong. She might not understand what you’re going through and she feels like you’re not putting in enough effort. I’d let it slide this time and just reply: “I am sorry you’re feeling like I’m not putting in any effort. I’m going through a really difficult time and am just not feeling really social right now. I do care about our friendship and will reach out when I’m feeling better.”
Post # 78
Nothing about this lady is “reasonable” I can assure you. I’ve known her for 3 years. While sweating it out on the cardio machines, we have discussed our lives. She knows the demands of my career and family. She may not understand them but she is well aware of them. I Find her to be selfish, miserable and yes..a whacko!
Thank you..I’m so angry at the moment, not just at crazy gym lady, but at the way things seem to be turning out. I’m happy I posted this thread..very liberating.
Post # 79
if you feel bad for her and she is a sad person, i think you should do what someone else suggested and downgrade to acquaintance.
i’m sorry you haven’t heard from me in a while. our dog actually died, and it’s hit both of us extremely hard, but thank you for asking.
it seems like perhaps given the many responsibilities i have, i’m not able to offer as much of my time/friendship as you’d like. i would love to remain friendly with you, but i don’t want you to feel discontent or mistreated. right now there’s a ton going on, so i would feel guilty intimating otherwise to you lest i be unable to live up to expectations.
i wish you the best, and for now i think i’ll have to leave it at “see you at the gym!”
Post # 80
LOL! Seriously still feel bad that she is a miserable creature. But I feel her email was bullshiit in it’s purest form
Thanks I won’t be seeing her anytime soon. She obviously has no clue how to be a true friend!
Thank you, after my response I’m sure she’ll be doing the blocking.
Thanks..probably the best response but I’m boiling over here. who knows what I’ll have the guts to say. either way, I feel she should know how shitty her email was.
I’m not a “mean girl” and quite frankly am tired of being the shit at the bottom of people’s shoes. my fault for being so nice. Damn these people for taking advantage. A Lesson is in order for this lady. she lost a friend!
Thank you..and I agree with what you said. Not worth it.
Thanks..excellent advice! I’ve already suggested a professional and she nearly bit my head off. She’s blacklisted another lady at the gym who is a professional and deals with eating disorders on a regular basis. made a scene and everything..it was horrifying.
Thank you so much:) Hugs back to you.
Post # 81
HA! I love your response! Thank you:)
Post # 82
@Birdi: I don’t stay friends with people like that. I wouldn’t reply to the email, and the next time I ran into her at the gym I would be cordial but distant.
Post # 83
I wasn’t trying to insinuate you
were a mean girl AT ALL. I don’t know how you got that idea but I’m sorry, I tried to make it clear I was separating the fact I thought some PPs were rude from my advice to you. This is the kind of situation I can see myself in because I hate to be mean to people so I totally understand where you’re coming from.
Post # 84
@Birdi: i wouldnt respond to anyone like this. she doesnt deserve a response. also, i am so sorry for your loss. i went and read your other post about your baby. i cannot even begin to imagine what you are going through. you did everythign you could for him and he is very greatful. thank you for being such a compassionate and wonderful pet mom. XO
Post # 85
- Wedding: June 2014 - British Columbia
Eek! Those who doesn’t want to help themselves can’t be helped. Such denial and anger from this lady acquaintance!! Her denial brings me back to this modern-day parable: God sends a man a boat and a helicopter as God tries to save man from drowning, but man refused help as it wasn’t God Himself who came to rescue him.
Nobody can make her own situation better but herself. I’m also slowly learning to stop being nice to negative people as listening attentively to their complaints/whining/pity-party-for-one; etc wouldn’t help. Fiance gave me the best advice: we can only lead by example or doing things ourselves. 🙂
Post # 86
I’m so sorry to hear about your Bogie 🙁
As for the email, add my vote to the “don’t even bother responding” camp.
Post # 87
Oh! no! i know what you meant. Thats not what I was saying! Sorry for that.
Post # 88
I now join you in releasing those kind of people from my life. I wish her well but clearly don’t have the time to dote on her ridiculous demands.
Thanks for your kind words. My husband thinks Bogie rescued us instead of the other way around.
XO Thank you!
Your Fiance is a smart man!
Post # 89
Sorry for your loss! Well, there is a reason that she has no other friends, she is nuts… It sounds like you do not need her friendship. Ignore her and block her if at all possible. If she sees you at the gym, let her know that in your oh so BUSY schedule, you do not and will not have time to deal with her EVER again. Be as polite as possible because she really seems lonely, crazy, and pathetic. Just distance yourself from her as much as you can, and if what she says is true, then this “friendship” will fall to the side since you don’t have time to respond to her…
Post # 90
I’d probably just continue to ignore her, but I’m hopeless when it comes to conflict and my approach is always “maybe if I ignore this, it will go away!”.
Post # 91
we feel the same about our two rescue cats. hang in there sweetie. take care of yourself