(Closed) I’m starting to feel like people don’t care about our wedding…

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I wouldn’t expect my guests to come to multiple showers. Usually it’s only the bridal party that goes to all of them.

I also have extended family that are not coming – some because of family drama, some because of graduation conflicts, other weddings, etc. We picked a tough time of year, date twin!

That having been said… I remember RIGHT at the beginning, someone made a flippant comment about a conflict they had with our date and I got upset and told Fiance. He said, basically, that if people want to come they’ll be there, and if they have to prioritize something else.. well, that’s fine too. That’s their priority. Ours is getting married and having a kick ass party.

I’m paraphrasing, but that’s what it’s come down to. 😉

Post # 4
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964 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I could stand to have some people RSVP NO to cut down the list… if they actually respond. We are giving a few extra weeks to RSVP since people can be slow. I agree with atalante and my FH, if they want to come they’ll make the effort. I’m having multiple showers/parties due to people living all over. I’m trying to separate the bad economy from people just not wanting to come. It’s hard since it’s a really important day. Also have to face that fact that some people just don’t plan… even with the Save-The-Date Cards

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper

You have to focus on the people who are there for you. Does it totally stink that friends and step-siblings are ditching out at the last minute…absolutely. But there are going to be a ton of other people who are there and ready to celebrate with you. And the most important part is that you’re marrying the man of your dreams. 

Post # 6
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637 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

It’s normal.  So don’t get too upset.  Some people I prefer to see over the others, but it’s always the ones that are important can’t make it for a various different reasons.

If people want to come, they will make it happen.  If they can’t, we should understand too.  But again, it’s their loss as the wedding is going to be awesome!

Post # 8
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10367 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

If you are having TWO showers and a bachelorette party, obviously people care about your wedding. Expecting people to attend two showers is a bit much. When I was in the process of getting married, I really felt like there were too many “events” leading up to a wedding. People don’t want to spend money on like 3 different events leading up to a wedding where they have to spend even more money. Nobody will care about your wedding as much as you. After all, this is about you committing to your Fiance, not about how much attention people shower you with.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

You’re having 2 showers and a bachelorette party and you still feel like people don’t care about your wedding?  Wow…..I wish I was having 1…..

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I really don’t mean this to sound snotty, and I hope it doesn’t come off that way, but no one cares about your wedding as much as you do. And no one’s life revolves around it, either. Let’s be honest: a guy’s golf weekend vs a bridal shower? You’re never gonna win that battle, unless the guy is the groom!

Instead of focusing on everyone who isn’t coming, focus on everyone who is. A lot of bees don’t get any showers, or bachelorettes, so be happy with what you do have, which is a lot more than most. 🙂

 

Post # 12
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284 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I agree with sara_tiara: no one is going to care about your wedding as much as you do. There will be the people closest to you, who care about it a lot, and those who want to come to wish you well and have fun, but for the most part, people are dealing with so much else in their lives. You’re just going to stress yourself out if you worry about things that are out of your control — focus on having a good time, and enjoying yourself and the pople that do make it.

Edit: just curious, how close are you two to the friend and the step-siblings? I would understand being upset if you’re all really close.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@BluegrassBridetoBee:  Aha. OK, I get being offended about that, then.

I do think you need to turn your attention to who is coming, and enjoy their company. Do you really want anyone at your wedding who isn’t thrilled to be there, and thrilled for you and your FI? I sure as heck don’t.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee

Honestly, I am praying that people RSVP “No” to the wedding.  We are so far over our capacity that it is crazy!  I can see why you are upset, though.  Obviously these people mean a lot to you and you want them there. 

Post # 15
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812 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

You’re very fortunate that you have so many people that DO care about you enough to want to throw you two showers and a bachelorette party.

My daughter and my fiance are really the only two other people involved in any way in the planning and doing stuff for our wedding.

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