Post # 1
I’m so upset about the food we are serving I could just cry! Fiance is paying for the bulk of the wedding himself and is trying very hard to give me the wedding of my dreams, but I feel like he totally dropped the ball on the food!
The wedding itself is rather formal and traditional. We are having it at my grandmother’s home with a tented reception. Think Steel Magnolias meets Father of the Bride. The tent and other rentals are the biggest expense. A lot of other wedding related costs have been covered by my family or have been gifted to us by friends, such as, my friend who is an event coordinator doing all of our wedding planning as a gift and a college friend doing our music.
I refuse to tell anyone who is catering but, I will tell what we’re having. Italian sausage and peppers, baked chicken, mostaccioli, meatballs, garden salad, breadsticks, and cake. That’s it for 115 guests. I just feel that the food does not reflect the rest of the wedding at all! I’ve got this vision in my head of going to a fancy restaurant and being served McDonalds!
I think the part that bothers me the most is that he waited until the last possible moment to tell me he was flaking on the food. I went to him a million times in the planning process and told him that if it seemed like cost was getting out of hand we could wash the slate clean and do an intimate civil ceremony and local dinner with immediate family and call it a day but, he insisted we had to have a full out wedding. Now I feel as though I’ll be terribly embarrassed by the low quality and low variety of the food being served.
Any advice on how to humble myself to the situation and not let it ruin our day?
Post # 3
I guess I don’t see a problem? That food sounds great.
Post # 4
@NikkiKillpretty: Looking for a problem here…. do you not like this food? It sounds delicious. I normally can’t tell the price of chicken while I eat it so….
I fail to see how a large Italian dinner is similar to McDonalds..
Post # 5
What about making just a few small changes in the menu that won’t make it much more expensive. Penne ala Vodka and Chicken Francaise seem like wedding staples in my area and would round out the variety in your menu. I think it might be quite good?
Another option is to keep food as is, but add an antipasto platter at the beginning.
I see your point on the variety, but I’m not sure I see where the low quality comes in. I think for a backyard wedding, those foods are perfect.
Post # 6
@NikkiKillpretty: It doesnt sound horrible to me. You say he is paying for the bulk of it. Are you able to contribute something and/or more? Can you cut back on something else for a better caterer or some different food options? It honestly does not sound like a bad menu to me.
Post # 7
What kind of food would you expect at a wedding like that? Maybe you could add details and appetizers that make the food seem “fancier” to you.
Post # 8
Based on the description, I don’t think the food sounds low quality. I think most guests would enjoy that selection. You could add more variety by mixing in a few different appetizers. If you don’t like the taste of the food or don’t think it goes with your theme, maybe sit down with your Fiance and the caterer and see what your other options would be.
Post # 9
@Chrysoberyl: +1. Agreed, this is nothing like a McDonalds meal…
I think you are just thinking too much into this. You are not having a huge princess wedding in a grand ballroom. You are having a decent sized backyard wedding, nobody is going to be expecting Duck Confit, Filet Mignon or anything like that. You need to relax and just enjoy your special day, without worrying about the food!
Post # 10
- Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center
That food sounds yummy. And not at all like mcdonalds
Post # 11
@NikkiKillpretty: there’s nothing wrong with your menu, at least not that I can see. Did you envision a banquet hall dinner? Is that what you meant? It’s not feasible at your venue (which sounds lovely btw) to have white gloved servers bring hors d’ouvres around on silver platters, then take them away. Then bring plated salads, then take them away. Then bring a first course, then take it away. Then bring sorbet, then take it away. And so on and so forth… That wouldn’t be fair to your grandmother to have something like that. Your wedding will be beautiful. The food will be great. Stop stressing.
Post # 13
I guess to add a little clarification as to why I’m not thrilled with the menu it is because it is not an Italian restaurant or wedding caterer doing the food, it’s Rosati’s Pizza…..A local franchised pizzeria.
Post # 14
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
I thought you were going to be serving delivery pizza and beer. An Italian buffet is pretty standard for a lot of weddings and I definitely wouldn’t find it odd at a backyard wedding, even one as formal as you are making yours out to be.
Post # 15
McDonald’s definitely doesn’t serve any food like that! 🙂
It sounds 100% fine. I would NOT WORRY!
But if you still are worrying, add some fancier apps (I like the PP suggestion of antipasti) or do a meat & cheese platter. And can you change baked chicken to chicken marsala or chicken piccatta? Still inexpensive but sounds fancier 🙂
Post # 16
Yeah I fail to see how this is considered “cheap” or that he “dropped the ball”. I think you need to reconcile the views you have in your head vs/ the reality of the wedding you’re having. It’s not in a fancy restaurant so why would you have fancy restaurant food? The food you described sounds delicious!
I mean, if you had all sorts of hopes for some coq au vin/duck/chocolate fountains/etc then you might have needed to amend the whole “theme” of your wedding beforehand, you know? Because I don’t see that kind of fancy food fitting a backyard wedding. It will be beautiful, and trust me, everyone will love the food you serve!