Post # 1
If you or someone in your wedding were to find a post in a forum where someone was talking about you negatively, but it was all true information and the posters dislike of something you chose wedding related…
Would you be upset?
If you did it to someone else, they found it and were upset, would you take it down?
Just curious =)
Post # 3
yes, I would be upset if anyone critisized part of my wedding.
Post # 4
I would think it was a little petty for someone to be taking time out of their life to bash my wedding I suppose. I wouldn’t demand they take it down or anything.
Post # 5
me too. Quite upset Im sure.
Post # 6
i think anyone would be upset.
Post # 7
Before I pass judgment on this question one way or the other, I’d want to know what they said.
“The wedding color was RED!! It was EVERYWHERE! OMG, The room looked like a tampon, fo’ real!” <– this is not bad.
If it was my friend, talking about how terrible a person I am, I might have a problem with her airing my business in a way that i knew she was talking about me. The friendship would probably not survive if she couldn’t discuss her issue with me like a rational adult.
Post # 8
@StuporDuck: THIS. Exactly. I don’t understand why people get upset if someone says “I didn’t like her centerpieces.” or “I would never have a [insert color here] wedding” or w/e…calm the bleep down, women, people are allowed to have different tastes, EVEN when it comes to weddings! If I overheard someone say something that ACTUALLY reflected on me as a human being, I’d be upset. But I don’t think even saying they despised my decor and thought my dress was tacky would upset me too much. That’s their prerogative. As long as they don’t say “her dress was tacky AND she’s an ugly bitch” HAHA
Post # 9
@StuporDuck: OMG, The room looked like a tampon, fo’ real!
Post # 10
@Juliepants: I’m glad I don’t have to edit my irreverent humor around here. 🙂
Post # 11
Honestly, I know there are a lot of things that happened at my wedding other bees might look down. We had a dollar dance, we had a cash bar after some kegs and happy hour, we auctioned my garter, my plates only cost a whopping $11 (double delish non-the less), my dress was from David’s Bridal, I was a young bride, we weren’t well off at the time, people had to park their own cars, we toasted with beer, honestly, the list could go on, and then on for another mile. Do I care, ha-ell no. Why? – Because the bees that may not have liked my wedding might also live in a completely different socio-economic/regional/cultural lifestyle than I do so their personal tastes/experiences probably will differ from mine. I would say 90% of weddings I attend are very similar to mine, give or take some, just as 90% of the weddings those bees attend are probably very similar to theirs. That other ten percent, well, good for them for not liking my wedding. As for decorations, everyone has different style and we’re all entitled to that. The thing is, it was my wedding, and I thought it was absolutely perfect. Now if someone were to say “she was a horrendous bride with a horrible spirt who looked like elephant droppings”, that’s a different story. I personally believe each and every bride is beautiful and personal attacks are uncalled for. I don’t know what was sad, or how harsh it was, but I would do my best to let it go. Just remember, while it is best for people to keep their mouth shut if they don’t have something nice to say, unfortunately, some people aren’t capable of doing this. Keep your head up girly, it’s your wedding for a reason
Post # 12
@StuporDuck: I agree with this too, it depends what was said. If it was mean, I’d definitely be insulted. But if it was just silly or jealousness of something, oh well. That person should get a life.
Post # 13
What if it was the walmart bm dress post? http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/walmart-bridesmaid-dress
You’ll have to pretend you wanted your BMS to wear a coverup from wal-mart to the wedding. lol. Or, say, you were the one who posted that and the bride found it, was upset, and demanded you took it down. Rational?
Thanks for the opinions, everyone. And the humor. =)
Post # 14
@kafir: Eh, I think I might get a little irritated if that was me she was posting about. Mostly because of the ingracious tone, and pointing out what she thinks the bride earns a year. Even if it’s factual that the bride earns 3 x as much, it doesn’t mean it’s a liquid asset.
My feelings would be a little hurt, I think. I would want to know why she wouldn’t thank me for buying the dress, and calling it a day. But that’s hypothetical. There might be underlying issues in the relationship that aren’t being addressed. Who am I to say?
I’m just a bystander, laughing at the tampon wedding.