- 4 years ago
- Wedding: October 2014
So throughout my wedding planning to this point, I have been very easy going in making decisions and developing a vision for our day. For example, I was able to happily pick out my gown and my bridesmaids gowns in my first appointments for each one. I was also confident in choosing the second venue that we looked at. I’ve booked the DJ and Photographer with really no issue at all, and have happily taken suggestions for everything.
The guest list has been kind of a different issue, because there was some, um… struggling, on my FIL side with narrowing it down to the 90 people I was offering. I did get kind of pushy, and was afraid of being a bridezilla, about getting their list to send out save the dates. However, they are the kind of people who, if left unchecked, wouldn’t have the list done for months. In the end, they offered to contribute to the wedding so that they could invite their extra people. Cool, it would have been easier if you’d done that from the get-go, but OK great, it’s done, it’s settled. Now I am getting a little bit of flack from my dad because his is (justifiably) nervous that if they invite the whole world, I wont be able to spend the evening with my new husband, but rather will be caught up talking to his old neighbors and boy scout parents (who he doesn’t even talk to anymore). I am nervous about this all too, but decided to be accomodating because it was really driving me insane that they were dragging their feet and making the guest list process a nightmare. They know to keep it reasonable, and I am willing to keep them in check again, reminding them how I said I didn’t want more than 200 people at my wedding. So that’s the first instance of beng the anti-bridezilla and it apparently being a bad thing.
Next, is with the grandparents attire… I don’t care what the grandparents wear. Both of my grandfathers have passed, and my grandmothers will be wearing the dresses they have from my cousins weddings. I am the second on one side and third on another to be married, and all of the family has agreed that asking the grandmothers to buy a new dress for each of their 12/8 grandchildren is just silly. Both of the dresses are beautiful and neutral, so I am really not worried about it. However, FMIL is just beside herself trying to figure out what his grandparents will wear. Will the grandfathers be in tuxes? Do the grandmothers have to wear long dresses to match my grandmothers? Does it need to be a certain color? Does it need to be a certain fabric? Honestly… I DONT CARE. They know what my grandmothers are wearing, and know I don’t have grandfathers to tell what to wear. She’s stressing that his short grandmom with want to wear a short dress, but worried that that won’t match. And she’s stressed that her dad won’t be able to fit in a tux or be comfortable in one. She keeps saying it’s “what I want” but is not listening to me when I say that I just want people to be happy and comfortable. Nothing is going to be ruined by his grandmother wearing a shorter skirt. What is so hard to understand about the fact that I simply do not have an opinion on the matter except for please don’t show up in sweatpants!?!
I’m I really being that much of a pain because I am not commanding every single move anybody makes regarding my wedding?! Here I am, trying not to let myself get hyped up over every detail and becoming a bridezilla, that I am apparently being difficult anyway? It’s not like I haven’t been able to make decisions or have been settling for things, I just know what I want, what I can spend and when I find something I love that fits my budget, I book it or buy it! Is being an easy-going bride really that big of a problem?!
Sorry for this incredibly poorly written rant. It’s 1:30 am, I have the flu and can’t get this crap off my mind. Oh the joys of wedding planning. *big, delirious smile*