Post # 1
my sister is getting married in June, and she has already been trying to decide about the bachlorette party. i havent been included a whole lot, financially i dont want to coordinate her bachlorette to be honest, im horrible when it comes to finding decently priced hotels, etc, etc. so im ok with her and her other BMs taking control of that. i want to contribute somehow, but its been beyond difficult, with me living in florida and her in california. anyone been a Maid/Matron of Honor and in the same situation? what did you do to stay apart of the planning, any advice on little things i might be able to contribute to.
Post # 2
Kslim13: Even as Maid/Matron of Honor, you’re under no obligation to throw her parties (shower/engagement/bachelorette/etc.), so keep that in mind should you ever start to feel guilty about not being there to contribute. Honestly, I’d say be as involved as you want to be/can be. Let the other Bridesmaid or Best Man know that since you live so far away, that it would be okay with you if they wanted to take over the planning. Let them know the extent you are willing to help (i.e. will you help cover costs? Be willing to create invites/help with the invite list? Or do you want no part of the planning?) As long as they are aware of the situation, they should be able to take over
Post # 3
That was a similar situation for my sister, for my wedding. She was out of state for school, so my 2 bffs coordinated everything. I told them that I wanted to go to Vegas and they ran with it from there. They kept my sister in the loop with emails and texts and she was able to give some input.
Are you friends with her other 2 bridesmaids or have their email addresses/numbers? You could start by initiating bachelorette and bridal shower talk if you haven’t already been discussing it. I think staying connected as best you can is the important thing.
Post # 4
Kslim13: My MOH’s are on total opposite sides from me too, one is in NY and other is in Cali. The one in California flew in for my dress appointments since I was with her when she found her dress. That in itself was amazing if you could do it.
When I was Maid/Matron of Honor for my Maid/Matron of Honor I put together a photo book from all the girls and a letter from her mom that I gave to her the morning of the wedding. So that’s an idea that you can do from afar 🙂
Post # 5
I am my sisters Maid/Matron of Honor she lives in cali and I live In Massachusetts. I have been calling vendors when I get off work for her. And I will be planning her bridal shower when I go visit next year. I contacted an aunt we will have it at her house. Remember while its 6pm here it’s three there if she needs vendors to be called you can do that!