- 6 years ago
Here is the layout..
My sister, who is older than me by 18 months, is getting married
(link removed ) on July 14. Her fiancé is great, comes from good family, etc.
I am a bridesmaid, and I do not mind at all, not being the Maid/Matron of Honor. I am just so happy for her and the great life she has worked so hard for. She’s a doc.
That being said, the last several years I was emotionally and mentally out of the family picture dealing with the struggles of alcoholism. I am finally, thank God, sober with over 6 months sobriety and happy I will be in-tune mind, body, and spirit for these upcoming ceremonies.
She has asked that I do a reading during the mass (which is to be held on our parent’s property) and be the Dirty Delete for the ride after the wedding night.
What I am seeking from you all is:
1) What kinds of things am I to expect being the sis of the bride?
- a. Do I have any unwritten duties?
2) How can I help my sister during, before, etc?
.. I was thinking of keeping an eye on who is talking to her, if they go on forever… I could come up and steer them away.. etc.
*biggie*3) Do I need to say a speech on Dinner rehearsal night? Or can I wait till Sunday morning when the groom’s parents host the “Toast and Toast”?
4) Do I have to get them a wedding gift? I by accident got her a gift from the registry for one of her 3 showers last fall..
ANYthing else? I am not bringing a date. I hope that is not weird…
All of you women, thanks in advance! Any input will be so helpful. My mother is not exactly proud of her “other daughter” me so it is hard to even get answers from her.