Post # 1
My dress, which I ordered without trying on because the store didn’t have a large enough sample, is in. And I think, as Gob Bluth would say, I’ve made a huge mistake. It’s too late now to do anything about it, so I’ve got to wear it either way, but I’m just so disappointed that I, the detail freak, managed to screw up only like the most important detail, and spend way more money than I ever intended in the process. *sigh* I think my biggest mistake was making the decision in a vacuum. I went to every dress appointment alone (my mom passed away years ago and my best friend is pretty anti-wedding industry), so I didn’t have anyone to tell me to walk away and keep looking.
So.. can anyone make me feel better and say they hated their dress and felt dumpy in it, yet still had a fantastic wedding day and loved their photos?
The bodice is being taken in and the front hemmed so that it doesn’t drag, but here it is:
Post # 3
Keep your head up girl – It will look better hemmed as it will lay better and I don’t think you are at a loss yet.
Depeding on your shape – could you replace the sash with a slightly wider, flat sash? it sounds counterintuitive, but I think it would help define a waist. It’s a relatively simple modification.
Post # 4
I think that dress is gorgeous! I tried it on (I think it’s the same one), came in 3rd for me. I think once it’s taken in and fits properly, you’ll feel much better about it and it’ll give you a nice hourglass shape.
Post # 5
Honestly I think it looks fantastic! I love the dress and once it gets fitted to your body I think you’re going to look great! You could change the sash if you wanted, but I think the one you have with the flower is fun and adds a little personality to it. Keep you’re head up, you’re going to look beautiful!
Post # 6
I have a feeling if you grew out your hair a bit, curled it with some beachy waves, and had the dress hemmed and altered you would feel really good about it. I also agree with adding a wider sash. Have some faith that you are going to look fabulous!!! *hugs*
Post # 7
I think it’s really pretty on you, actually, and it’ll look a lot more flattering when it’s altered properly. PP’s suggestion of a different sash is a good one that it couldn’t hurt to try. I added a colored sash to my dress and it really helped reverse the big white wall of dress problem I was having (which I think is just inherent in wedding gowns. It’s a weird garment to wear. when else are you in voluminous, head-to-toe white?)
Post # 8
I actually LOVE it. I think you look like a princess! =D
Post # 9
I think you look like a princess! The gown makes your waist look tiny. I agree with other bee’s maybe change the sash to your wedding color if you feel like its too much white, hence your term of “marshmellow”. Once its altered and your all dolled up the day of your wedding you will look BEAUTIFUL. 🙂
Post # 10
Judging from your rear end reflection, I think the issue is that you’re all boob (I know, I’m a Dirty Delete closing in on an E again, eek!) and the dress’s waist is not tight enough to show off that gorgeous figure of yours. Seriously, it will look soooooo much better when it’s taken in just a teeny bit. Trust us!! You’re gorgeous!
Post # 11
I don’t think you look anything like a marshmallow. Try not to freak out until the alterations are done. Once the dress is fitted (especially at the waist) you are going to be happier with your dress!
Post # 12
Also, consider your undergarments! I tried my dress on for the first fitting without my trusty spanx (left them home) and when I went back they had to take it in even more due to the spanx smoothing it all out. Definitely get some good foundation garments if you aren’t already wearing them. And I agree with previous posters that taking it in, hemming it, and doing up your hair will do wonders. Also maybe consider having them make the neckline more of a sweetheart? I have gigantic boobs and a little cleave always helps me feel sexy instead of stay-puft.
Post # 13
Thank you, ladies. I really appreciate the suggestions and encouragement. I’m not sure a different sash is an option because the sash is part of the dress and the flower/beaded applique is on top of it, plus it has these strips going up one side which also go over the sash – hard to explain, and I think just as hard (and therefore expensive) to alter. I may see if there’s a way we can unfold the folds of the sash to make it wider. And I’ll keep my fingers crossed that it looks better after alterations. Thanks y’all. xxx
Post # 14
Try it again, but pull your hair back and wear a veil and add some accessories. And have the shop clip the dress back so that it doesn’t sag. I think you’ll feel less dumpy. The dress will be very flattering once its fitted!
Post # 15
I think you look lovely, and with alterations you’ll be much happier. You’ll see that waist of yours much better and it won’t feel like so much fabric once the skirt is hemmed properly.
I’d love an update once alterations are done!
Post # 16
First of all, I LOVE LOVE LOVE Arrested Development. You get points for quoting that show 🙂
Second, I agree that after alterations (taken in on the sides, hem, steaming) it will look FABULOUS! You can even get a crinoline for under the skirt- with a poofy skirt it will make your waist look smaller! You will look and feel beautiful on your wedding day 🙂