I'm thinking about dumping my photographer/videographer

posted 2 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 2
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2018

I went through something similar with my photographer except it was us that showed up late because my car broke down and then we got stuck in traffic. It was an all around bad day. Plus then I felt like I looked really chubby in the pictures as well and was absolutely devestated for a few weeks after. But we always see the worst in ourselves. When I finally worked up the courage to show my mom and some close family they really loved them and slowly I stared to feel better about them. Do I love my pictures, no. But I was okay with sending them out for our Save the Dates. 

That being said, you better believe I’m talking to our photographer about how unhappy I am with the photos. Obvs it’s not his fault that we were late and rushing but there were a few pictures where I wish he had said that my face looked really stressed or that my hair was out of place and better tell me that on our wedding day. I don’t think you should necessarily fire them for having a bad day but give her the opportunity to make it right the next time you work together. She might even say that she will reschedule another day to take photographs with you for free. 

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Give her the chance to right it first. But if she doesn’t then drop her. It’s not worth it.

Post # 4
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Busy bee

Even if she ends up being great, it’s not worth the stress. The only diva on your day should be you, not a “popular” photographer.

At first I really wanted one of those fancy candid photographers. But my mom pointed out that you only really will care about 2-3 good photos from your wedding a year from now. All those candid pictures and the fun/unique shots will probably just go in a Facebook album you never look at. It’s a traditional shot showing your love for each other that will go on your wall. And you won’t be able to relax and let the love shine through if you’re worried you’ll look fat and aren’t getting enough direction from the photographer.

I vote you go for a new photographer, find a few unique shots from the old photographer you like and ask the new one to recreate them. 

Post # 5
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Busy bee

rao4400 :  would you be willing to post a few? Can you ask the photographer for a retake?

Post # 6
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Worker bee

1/4 of an inch taller is literally not noticable. Maybe you’re imagining the part about good looking people having better pictures. Give her a chance to make it right at least.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2018 - Fremont, CA

Dear bee, I do not want to sound harsh – on the contrary, I want to offer you a different perspective. It might be totally off, in which case, feel free to completely disregard it.

I think the issue here goes beyond the photographer’s work. From what you wrote (although she did have some serious miscommunication problems, and the lighting was not ideal due to those problems), the real problem seems to be your insecurities coming to surface. Your comment about your height and weight, as well as the remark about the photographer working a lot with “skinny brides” point at the possibility of you having had unrealistic expectations about what your pictures would look like.

That being said, I’m sure your pictures turned out fantastic and that you looked beautiful. Remember that we are our worse critics. 

They say comparison is the thief of joy. So is Pinterest sometimes…

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2018 - Fremont, CA

Wow, you’ve been through A LOT lately!!! Hugs!

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2018 - Fremont, CA

She should have treated the first image, IMO.

You are right about the sunset.

And I was right about how lovely you look! 😍

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2018 - Fremont, CA

rao4400 :  dear, take deep breaths. I’m sorry you’ve been through so many challenges! Thankfully you and your loved ones are in great health, right? Focus on the positives! Speaking of whigh, have you noticed how mesmerized by you, and smitten, and utterly in love your fiancé is? That look in his eyes!

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

rao4400 :  Photo #1: If that’s the worst then things aren’t so terrible. The photo is gorgeous but I assume that you have issue thanks to an ill-fitting dress/bra/bunching? We all get that happen to is from time to time.

#2: Cute as.

#3: Can you ask her about what happened to the sunset colours? Perhaps she removed them to focus on you two because she has got sun streaming between you both.

Photos tend to be our Achilles heel. I wanted mine quickly – not because I was excited – but because I wanted it over and done with! It turns out we had a spectacular photographer (no trial for us). I didn’t look as terrible as I thought I might.

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