(Closed) I’m thinking of kicking out a bridesmaid just so I can get rid of a groomsman

posted 12 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 18
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1088 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

@AmberEyes – Yikes, this is a really crappy situation. Honestly, if I were you, I would have your Fiance give him an ultimatum. I’m not usually in favor of kicking out wedding party members, but this seems to be an extreme situation. Your Fiance probably won’t go for it based on what you’ve said here, but I think Vince needs to be told, “Either get yourself help and stop raining on everyone’s parade, or you’ll need to step down as groomsman and attend the wedding as a guest.”

Your wedding is still pretty far off, so you could either do it now and get it over with before tux’s are ordered, or wait a while and see if he changes after a few more “talks.” It’s up to you guys and what you’re comfortable with.

As a bride and groom who had to ask a toxic member of the wedding party to ste down due to some pretty awful and unforgivable behavior, my husband and I can attest to that being the right decision sometimes. It made our planning so much better and easier, and once that person was gone (even though we knew the relationship would be ruined forever), it was a 1,000 pound weigiht lifted off our shoulders.

Post # 19
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27 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Vince is a bully and since your Fiance still doesn’t want to kick him out, the best thing for you to do is completely ignore him.  Ask everyone else to ignore him when he makes these sorts of comments also.  If you find that completely impossible, at least don’t show him that you’re bothered.  He might stop saying these things if he isn’t getting the reaction he’s looking for. 

“Marriage sucks”.. “Marriage is prison”…  *saccharin sweet voice* “Aww, I’m so sorry you feel that way.  You sound depressed.  Is there anything I can do to help?” 

“There’s a 50 percent divorce rate”…  “Actually, that’s not accurate.  You see, we’re both in our late 20s and we both have jobs, so the divorce rate goes down to approximately 15%.  Pretty good odds, don’t you think?”

“You’re wasting your money on this wedding”…  “Good thing it’s our money, huh?”  *smile*

“This will be the end of your lives”…  “Well, that’s dramatic!  I’m not supposed to take that seriously, am I?”  *laughing, walk away*

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