(Closed) I'm thinking of objecting at the wedding.

posted 2 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2018 - UK

Nothing would happen unless you could provide an actual legal reason why they couldn’t be married, something like “I’m in love with the bride/groom” wouldn’t actually do anything other than make you look like an asshole

Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

Unless you know the couple are actually related or something then the objection part isn’t what you think it is. 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

Yeah… wouldn’t do that unless the marriage is actually illegal… I.e under age, under the influence, already currently married etc. 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Fwiw I have never been to a wedding where they actually asked for objections. Just stay home. 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

If you know an actual reason why they shouldn’t marry (cheating, blood ties, etc) tell them BEFORE the wedding instead of ruining their day. They may already know and if not they can deal with it without being humiliated in front of all their loved ones. If the issue is you’re jealous of one of them, just cut ties and leave them be. He or she chose someone else.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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weddingno :  that’s not a real part in most weddings anymore. That’s just in the movies. And even if it was… why embarrass people (and yourself) like that? If you have a legitimate legal reason the marriage can’t take place why don’t you talk to them like an adult?

ETA: typos

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2017

What will happen? You will look like a complete ass.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

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weddingno :  it does happen in the UK and legally the wedding has to stop, at least for some time while the matter is cleared up.

So what happens is that you delay the wedding for at least an hour, at which point unless the wedding is illegal, the wedding will then go ahead but everything will delayed and you’ll look like an arsehole. You’ll have ruined their wedding.

If you’re doing this because it’s funny – it’s not. The couple have spent a lot of time and energy planning this. You will kill the relationship with them.

If you’re in love with them – the time to bring it up has sailed. Do you honestly think ruining their wedding day will actually make you look like a good choice?

If you just want to be an arsehole – just have a day off. There’s plenty of other times you can be arsehole. You never know – you might enjoy not being an arsehole.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

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somathemagical :  it does still happen in weddings, especially in the UK. We had it in our wedding. But if someone objects the wedding has to be legally stopped for at least an hour whilst the objection is investigated. Our vicar told us if we had any friends that were likely to think this was funny to not invite them or threaten them.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016 - Sussex, UK

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weddingno :  “It’s all I got.” Care to elaborate?

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

So…why do you want to do this exactly…? 

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

Ummm care to give us any reason for wanting to do this? Super vague post. 

Post # 14
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

What makes you think you have standing to object to the wedding? 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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loz24 :  Interesting. That seems so odd that the vicar would tell you to threaten people… 

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