(Closed) I'm thinking of objecting at the wedding.

posted 6 months ago in Ceremony
Post # 46
3734 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - City, State

OP, if you actually love this woman, you’ll respect her decision to marry someone else and will not ruin her wedding day. Because if you object the wedding, you WILL ruin her day. It’s all anyone will talk about, she’ll be mortified and her husband will be pissed. If this is real, for the love of god, PLEASE do NOT do this. Nothing good will come if this. 

If you really feel the need to confess your feelings for her, do it before the wedding. But again, if she wanted to be with you, she likely wouldn’t be marrying someone else. 

Post # 48
94 posts
Worker bee

Considering the naivete of this post I think it’s more likely OP is twelve.

Post # 49
1891 posts
Buzzing bee

Yeah that is so not ok ever. OP you do realize if you did that at her wedding her entire family will hate you right? Then your chances with her are nonexistent. You can’t do something to her and her family that totally and completely embarrasses them and think you will then get to be with her. Nope! 

The only chance in hell you have with her is if you ask to meet her for lunch and talk to her privately about your feelings. And you know what? She might not even want to meet with you. In that case you need to respect her decision and move the fuck on. 

Are you even invited to the wedding? Or are you thinking of crashing it? 

Post # 50
617 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018 - City, State

somathemagical :  I’d watch the hell out of that Lifetime movie.

Post # 51
4035 posts
Honey bee

This isn’t a scene from The Graduate. She is not going to run off with you. She’s going to be furious with you and rightly so. You had your shot, you lost, get over it.

In short, this might be the stupidest idea you’ve ever had, although I suspect you’ve had plenty.

Post # 52
9806 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

I wonder if the “wedding” is during their lunch break and the groom gave the bride a beautiful ring pop. norapunch :  

Post # 53
743 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: City, State

weddingno : This will not end how you think it will end.

I actually have had problems with a few exes intruding into my life, so I can say this with complete confidence: if a past fling of mine stood up and objected at my wedding, I would punch him in the fucking face and then get a restraining order.

1. You’re ruining her ceremony, for which she has paid a lot of money and put in a lot of time; at this point, she cannot get back either of those.

2. You will not only ruin the day for the bride and groom, but also for the guests who have put their time and money into gifts, attire, travel, accommodations, etc.

3. If she does leave her fiance for you, her family will likely hate you for it.

4. I think the bride and groom could actually file a civil suit against you for damages if you cause them to lose any money over this (i.e. reception costs if the wedding is called off).

5. Another man standing up proclaiming his love for her will make the bride look questionable at best in front of the groom’s family, which may ruin the relationships she has built with his family members

And after all of this, the bride will hate you and you will go home alone.


Also, if that’s all you’ve got, you better SIT THE FUCK DOWN.

Post # 55
62 posts
Worker bee

If someone did that to me at my wedding I would never talk to them again. I certainly wouldn’t be like, “OMG, you’re right, I SHOULD be with him…” and run away from the altar. lol.

Post # 56
930 posts
Busy bee


Post # 57
449 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2019 - City, State


Post # 58
9628 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL

MsJ2018 :  please revisit the TOS and stop reposting the same comment/thought. 

Post # 60
459 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2019

OP, if you really want to say something, than you should not do it on her wedding day! You should talk with her long before the wedding.

You’ll just look like a jerk and I’m sure that it won’t go like in movies, where finally the two of you would getting married. What reaction do you expect/what will the point be saying something? Do you really think she would be like: Uh, you’re right, I want to marry you and just screw my fiance”???

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