Post # 61
Tbh I’ve always kind of wanted this to happen at weddings I’ve been to because I think it would make them a lot more interesting! There’s always this suspense when they ask if there are any objections, so it wouldn’t ruin it for me at all as a guest.
However, I have a feeling it would not go down too well with the bride and groom and it’s not fair to ruin their big day because you feel like it should be you she’s marrying. If you feel this strongly you would have said something by now, I suspect if this is a genuine post then this is more about you being petty and jealous and wanting to ruin things for them than you actually caring about her.
Post # 62
- Wedding: September 2019 - City, State
lol yea ok, I still don’t believe it
Post # 63
- Wedding: September 2019 - City, State
norapunch : I couldn’t agree more
Post # 64
I mean c’mon even if this worked out EXACTLY how you want it to, OP, do you really want to be with someone who would leave someone at the altar like that? Takes a certain level of heartlessness to do that, don’t you think?
Post # 65
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Post # 66
MsJ2018 : ok but you’ve already said it. You are not the only one that thinks this. The bee is very good at sniffing out these types of posts. People aren’t being naive by responding they are just being clever in their responses rather than ringing the t-bell
Post # 67
Ok thanks all. I’m convinced. I’m going to talk to her before the wedding.
It took all my courage and then some, but I called her and made an appointment to meet at a Starbucks. Can’t believe I’m going to do it.
Some posters here have been trashing me as selfish and whatever. You guys don’t understand what it is doing to me to see the only girl I’ve ever loved, but never told it to, marrying some guy. I’m tired of it always being the other guy. It’s my turn. I cant sleep, can’t think straight.
Post # 68
weddingno : Be prepared that she is unlikely to jump into your arms and announce she is leaving her fiance and canceling her wedding.
Post # 69
weddingno : Thank God you won’t be ruining her day. But yeah, it probably won’t turn out how you want. You don’t deserve her to leave her fiance
Post # 70
- Wedding: May 2019 - City, State
weddingno : It really sounds like you’re suffering from “nice guy” syndrome in your update. Because honestly, if you actually loved her, you’d accept your current position and be happy for her.
Sure, meet her at Starbucks and tell her you’ve always loved her. But you better be 100% prepared for her to not reciprocate your feelings and you sure as hell better graciously accept and understand that. Because if you can’t, you do not actually love her. You just covet her.
Post # 71
Please please PUHLEASE post an update after the coffee conversation.
Post # 72
Yes, please update. curious of the outcome.
P.S. please don’t attned her wedding. It’s only goinng to crush you and there really is no point in being there. Not to sound rude, but it’d be in YOUR best interest if you didnt attend.
Post # 73
Ah, yes, marriage is really a lot like musical chairs, you know.
Lordy, too much drama for an old-timer like me. You kids have fun!
Post # 74
“and never told…”
“Made an appointment”
“It’s my turn.”
It doesn’t work like that. For some perfect clarity here: SHE PICKS. You don’t get a “turn” at someone just because you can’t sleep at night.
Post # 75
Ok, maybe I’ll report back. Let me see how it goes first.
I got good advice here and I’m grateful for that. But some people around here are making me out to be the bad guy without knowing anything about me or that loser she’s engaged to. You guys don’t know how much I’ve had to struggle and I don’t have the luxury of wedding budgets in six figures and debating which limo service to engage. My bank account is in minus. I’m the guy no one has ever given the time of day to. I want to turn that around now but would appreciate it if some people here would root for and not against me. That’s all.