(Closed) I'm thinking of objecting at the wedding.

posted 5 months ago in Ceremony
Post # 91
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480 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2019 - Southampton, UK

Sorry, can’t root for a guy with a skewed sense of entitlement who thinks he’s justified in sabotaging the wedding of someone he claims to love, because it’s his “turn”. Grow up.

Post # 92
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2917 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

Ok, I’ll pretend this is real for a minute. 

OP- please reconsider talking to her and sharing your feelings. It’s so unfair to her, you chose to hold back your feelings, but now that she’s sealing the deal with someone she loves you think it’s the right time to confess your love for her? You are being so insanely selfish here, you’re not thinking about this woman that you “love” at all. 

And not to be a total bitch but I would not date someone who had a negative bank account, that’s your fault and shows how irresponsible you are. Stop with the pity party already. 

Post # 93
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658 posts
Busy bee

hahaha. annnnd creeps like you, OP, are *exactly* why I have second and third degree black belts (and CCW certified people as well…but we won’t talk about that, because it certainly shouldn’t go that far-) coming to my wedding. ok they also happen to be good friends, and family-to-be…but still-

I hope you get ejected on your arse, everyone has a good laugh, the warriors present *thoroughly* enjoy getting to use their skills, and the wedding moves on with your planned drama just being a moment’s entertainment. 

That is what is planned, should any clowns show up who have threatened me/my future husband with this kind of b.s.  SHE CHOSE. respect her choice!
annnnd if you instead decide to make it all about you, and simply give her even more proof that she chose correctly, well, I hope your dignity is resilient. Good times all ’round, and free entertainment. ::slow clap:: 

Post # 94
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3230 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

Oh. 

So you’re one of those fucking guys. 

The guy that hangs around a woman for years pretending to be her friend all the while harbouring fantasies about making her fall in love with you even though you never make any kind of move until some other, better guy comes along and she falls in love with him, at which point you decide to hate the guy who “stole your girl” who was never your girl and feel hurt and offended that she “never gave you the time of day” so now you’re gonna try to ruin her relationship because you feel entitled to her affection. 

It’s not gonna work, bud. Might as well cut your losses and put your efforts into being less of a piece of garbage so maybe you’ll have the confidence to make moves on women at appropriate times and possibly even have some success at it. 

But you probably won’t. You’ll just walk away from this Starbucks conversation feeling sorry for yourself and angry at her and her fiance. 

Post # 95
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310 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

weddingno :  It’s your turn? Dude, turn taking is relevant for board games. Not women.

Post # 96
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834 posts
Busy bee

This sounds like something that would end up on an episode of Dateline. Creepy af and concerning for the bride and groom.

Post # 97
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1038 posts
Bumble bee

sboom :  This.  And, these are the type of guys that get angry at “all women” for “never getting a chance” and ends up murdering people for his feelings of rejection.

Post # 98
Member
802 posts
Busy bee

weddingno :   Assuming this post is real, serious question: how will you react when she rejects you at Starbucks? A person who shows up to someone’s wedding with a desperate intent to profess their love to them doesn’t sound like someone who would react rationally to rejection. 

At Starbucks, when she tells you she has no romantic feelings toward you, please don’t kidnap her in the hopes she’ll succumb to Stockholm syndrome. 

Post # 100
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1588 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2019 - City, State

weddingno :  Okay. Take a step back. Saying she is the only woman you will ever love is overly dramatic and simply not true. You may absolutely believe it is true, but it is not. This is not a movie, this is not that dramatic. Nothing will come of this meeting. You’re not going to suddenly win her heart. I can guarantee if one of my guy friends set up a meeting with me at Starbucks to tell me I was making a mistake marrying my fiancé, and that he loved me, always had, and always will – I would be pissed and never speak to him again, because clearly he is not my friend. Nothing you say to her is going to change her mind. You’re not a knight in shining armor. She’s getting married, and it’s not to you. 

If you don’t think you can move on without coming clean – by all means confess to her. But don’t expect anything from her, and don’t be butthurt about it. 

Post # 101
Member
761 posts
Busy bee

weddingno :  So to start off, people discouraging you from attending the wedding were not encouraging you to arrange a meeting with her.

Secondly, I hope it does go well. I hope she rejects you, as she should and will, and you accept it graciously and move on, realizing going forward how entitled your actions and beliefs were. Or even better, you realize ahead of time, don’t say anything, and wish her and her future husband well.

Also, no one suggested you are a “stalker”. Stop being histrionic.

Post # 102
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133 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

weddingno :  The “only woman I’ll ever love”? PLEASE. Dramatic much? There are other women out there. She has chosen her partner. Move on and find your happiness somewhere else instead of trying to steal someone else’s

Post # 103
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4522 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

weddingno :  Yikes….

This friend probably already knows or assumed you might have had feelings for her in the past. Judging by your post I think you are probably not a person who is good at hiding your emotions so she probably already knows on some level about your feelings. You going there and professing your undying love will not work. If she wanted to be with you she would have already. In my experience in life, people chase what they want with single minded precision. She wanted the other guy and went after him and NOT YOU. You wanted her so you are going to ridiculously extreme lengths at the 11th hour to get her because that is what you want. If she wanted you, she would be the one going to extreme lengths at the 11th hour to get you. Think about that…

You are obviously having an instance of extreme insanity but I wish you well in your future but no good luck in this singular endeavour of yours because you is being crazy. 🙄 

Post # 104
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11967 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

OK, I’ll bite. Why do you consider the fiance such a “loser?” If the guy is a trainwreck, and you are so right about the mistake she’s making, this would still not be the time to proclaim your feelings. 

By the way, how old are you? Work on yourself if you want your life to improve. This woman is not the only one out there for you. 

Post # 105
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4522 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Also is anyone secretly hoping that this is real and the girl is an engaged bee on here? I’m kind of hoping that in a few hours this bee comes on here and posts from the other perspective 😁

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