(Closed) I'm thinking we're not invited to the reception but what do you think?

posted 5 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Invited to reception?
    yes : (71 votes)
    86 %
    no : (12 votes)
    14 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    @cooperlove:  i think your Darling Husband is probably right. we had a buffet at our wedding so their was no meal choice in the invite. given that the ceremony is at a historical mansion, i’m guessing the reception is there also.

    Post # 4
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    @cooperlove:  Do you have any friends going to the wedding that you could talk to about it?

    I’m leaning towards you probably ARE invited but I wouldn’t be sure in that case either I guess. Even if it’s in the same place, I would think “reception to follow” would be somewhere on the invite

    Post # 5
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I think your Darling Husband could be right. It’s customary to put reception to follow on the invitation, but I can see people not thinking about that and just assuming guests will know.

    Post # 6
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Usually it at least says “Reception to Follow.” Are you close to anyone else that got invited that you would feel comfortable asking them about it?

    Post # 7
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2012

    that’s kind of odd.  the wedding is at dinner time so i would imagine there may be something.  there was an rsvp so i would say there is probably dinner. 

    you will have to let us know.  i am now curious.

    Post # 8
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @cooperlove:  I’m going out on a limb here, but I’d bet they just overlooked putting “reception to follow” on the invite. My friend helped me to design our invites, and it was overhelming trying to make sure we got everything right–there are so many rules and quirks you never even think about until you actually have to do it.

    And as for food, it could be a buffet or maybe not–my meal is a sit-down dinner, but the venue takes the order when the guests sit at their table, so my RSVPs do not have a meal choice on them.

    Post # 10
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    We don’t put “reception to follow” or have a menu card either – same reason. Reception is in the same place, and it’s a buffet. It’s all detailed on our website but now you have me worried people will be confused! 😛

    Post # 11
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @cooperlove:  I would call and ask. If for no other reason, that it affects your plans for that evening. Though it’s a little intrusive doing this, but if they are inviting all their guests to the reception, then they’ve brought the problem on themselves by not making it clear.

    EDIT: Wait, are you saying Darling Husband can’t ask the groom because the groom wouldn’t know?? (Don’t worry about DH’s lack of tact; if it’s just him asking the groom at work then it will only be between those two guys).

    Post # 13
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    @cooperlove:  Hmm…maybe she just wanted really awesome invites so she made them formal! If she didn’t care what you wear….I’m MUCH more leaning towards yes, you’re invited. I’d maybe call & ask “what time is the whole thing over?” instead of saying “are we invited to a reception?” lol

    Post # 16
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @cooperlove:  Just ask!  We printed “Reception to follow” on our invitations and still had multiple people ask if dinner would be served.  We also got lots of questions about what time the reception would be over from people who needed to plan childcare, work schedules, etc. so I also like a PP’s suggestion to ask that way.

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