- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2014
Not JUST with this situation, but with everything. But this is the one getting on my nerves…
My Fiance is great. My friends all love him. When he and I are together we go out of our way to make sure my friends don’t feel like a third wheel. I’m 21 and he’s 29, so with his friends it isn’t a big deal. They are mature about it all, but most of my friends are single.
Most of my get togethers with my friends I have left Fiance behind because I didn’t want my friends to feel bad since they don’t have boyfriends.
They would all tell me though “Oh you should bring [FI] with next time! He’s great and I don’t mind being around him! You don’t need to leave him behind.”
And yet with everything either I or someone else find some reason to not bring him.
Example: My friend and I are having a Christmas party. I’m basically the one who set it up but we’re having it at her house, so I still pass things by her. I asked if Fiance was invited.. I didn’t want to just bring him and make things awkward.
She said, “well I actually like [FI] so I would say yes but then other people might ask why they couldn’t bring their boyfriends and it would be a drama. ANd if they did bring their boyfriends too then there would be pairing off and it would get awkward.”
I explained that she and another friend who are single that are going tell me to bring him to things. Another friend has a boyfriend and also wants me to bring Fiance places and her boyfriend can’t come. The last friend is immature, but her boyfriend probably wouldn’t come anyway.
I just don’t get it. I’m tired of not bringing him places because of fear of what other people will think. And then being told I shouldn’t do that. And then being told not to bring him again! Its confusing for me and I’m sick of it.
Meanwhile, I didn’t know but Fiance has off work on Monday and I was planning on meeting my colleague friend who is 30 for lunch. She knows Fiance. I asked her if he could come too and she said “of course!!! You don’t need to ask that!”
Ugh. I’m tired and I don’t know why it upsets me. Maybe just that I feel bad…I don’t want Fiance to feel like he’s being rejected… I get to go to all of the things with HIS friends. It makes me teary and I’m trying to hide it because he’s sitting right here….