Post # 1
I know i’m only two weeks into this whole 31 days, but honestly…it’s wearing thin. I get tired of even thinking about it…especially because he will NOT under any circumstances leak any more info to me. I don’t want to sound like a spoiled brat, because I don’t intend to sound like that. I know he wants it to be a secret. I’m just tired of obsessing about it. I know that the ring is almost paid off, he has hardly anything left to pay on it. But here’s the thing…we leave for vacation on tuesday, and we’ll be gone 10 days. He won’t be able to pay on the ring while we’re gone, and we get back on the 28th…which leaves us with 3 days left till the 31st. How is he possibly going to get it sized and on my finger in 3 days? no way at all. I know when he goes to put payments on it because we live together, so it’s not a secret.
Maybe I’m just PMSing or something, but I’m so over the whole waiting thing. It’s exhausting. I hope this vacation can help get my mind off of things…I really need it.
Post # 3
@AlmostMrsP: I also know that my SO is paying for the ring already. I would say that if you know he’s paying it off and he’s almost done, you’re in a GREAT spot! It’s coming soon and you know it…its just a matter of time! Hang in there. At least you know he’s almost paid for the ring. That’s reassuring. There are those who don’t even have a time frame yet for engagement. I know waiting is hard, but you can do it!
Post # 4
I agree with PP. he’s being responsible, by paying it off before he gives it to you and that’s great. Try to enjoy the vacation and rest up so you’ll have plenty of energy for the engagement party and all the post engagement questions you’ll be asked when you get back! and hey if he doesn’t exactly meet your end of the month deadline, don’t sweat it, I doubt you’ll remember that when you’re celebrating your 1st/10th/50th wedding anniversaries!
Post # 5
Right there with you, lady! Good things come to those who wait – you can do it!
Post # 6
He purchased the ring and you already know it will be by the end of the month? I envy you! That’s much more progress than a lot of people on here. At least sit back and relax and let this one thing be a surprise. Obviously it’s happening soon. Just keep yourself busy with lots and lots of manicures so you’re prepared!
Post # 7
I am floating along in the exact same boat as you, only the ring is sitting in our house and not on my finger. Ahhhhh!!!! :/
Post # 8
Hang in there and enjoy your vacation! We are on the same boat also. I know he is very close to paying off the ring and I am trying very hard not to bring it up.
Try not to stress and have a wondeful trip.
Post # 9
I swear it must just be pms…i’ve been overly emotional this week, and it’s driving me crazy. Thanks ladies, for making me feel normal 🙂
I think that the trip in itself is helping make me a bit more emotional…for those of you who don’t know, I am a widow. I was married in 99, and my husband and father of my 4 kids passed away in Oct 09 right before our 10th anniversary. On this vacation, we’re going to be spreading his ashes, and though I havent thought about it too much, I know it’s probably affecting me more than I realize. My BF/Fi is a really awesome guy to even be coming with us on this trip, and being very supportive of everything.
Post # 10
@KayDubs: haha totally what I was thinking! I would kill for some kind of clue as to when!!!!
it will come! just relax and be ready to enjoy your engagement!
Post # 11
@ms.oregon.state: hahaha it’s so hard to relax. he mentioned something today, just some offhand remark about the ring, when I’d get it, and the way he said it, I just about burst into tears. We talked it over, but man, I was so mad at him.
All he said to me today was “trust me” and that it would happen before the end of the month.
Post # 12
I’m in a very similar boat!! I’m a widow also (married in 2004, lost him in 2008 when I was 27) and so I never thought I’d be so impatient this time around….but I am!! I picked the ring, all I have to do is wait for him to have enough $$ to order it (special order) and I’m not entirely sure how long that will be LOL. Maybe he’s trying NOT to give you the ring before this trip, as a way to keep the happy times seperate from the sad times?
Post # 13
What is it with the “trust me” line?? I got that as well. I feel like the perfect time has passed and now it’s just plain irritating having to wait for him to get on with it and ask me. He actually has the ring, he even told me the other day that he was going to propose on our anniversary a month back but didn’t feel the moment was right (restaurant was a let down and weather was miserable) but I don’t get what was wrong with every day after that for the past month.
We’ve been together for 6 years but I was only 18 when we met. I just really feel the past year was perfect timing but now it’s like the spontaneity/surprise ship has sailed. I would never give him an ultamatum, but I do feel there comes a point when I must let him know I’m getting a bit tired of waiting in anticipation and then being disappointed. Especially when he’s says he’s waiting for the perfect moment, and there have been so many opportunities but still nothing! Some people say you should help him create it, but I know I will only be more disappointed if he doesn’t sieze the opportunity.
Most of you reading this will probably want to respond with “you know he’s got the ring and he loves you so just hang in there”, but my point is that I think there is only a certain amount of time that a girl can “hang in there” and what does a girl do in a situation where her boyfriend has suggested he wants to propose but then doesn’t do it and blames it on the perfect moment?
Post # 14
Who knows, lady! Maybe he’ll pay it off entirely before your trip. My man is the exact same way: he wants everything to be hush-hush, he won’t even usually awknowledge my excitement when I discuss engagement. That’s how much he wants to keep everything a secret! It’s soooo hard to wait, but at least you know he is being responsible and paying the ring off (I don’t even know if mine has it, if he’s looked at them, if it’s even a thought in his mind right about now). . .hang in there baby girl. ENJOY YOUR TRIP, with or without a ring! Trust your man that he will make everything perfect for YOU! : )