Post # 1
Bees. I’m lost. FH and I planned an almost 2 year engagement so we could save up and so I could seriously slim down. I get motivated, work out for a week or so and fall back into the laziness and junk food. I joined a gym. Twice. I bought a treadmill so I woulnt be embarrassed at the gym. And I’ve just continued to go up in weight. My wedding is in three weeks and I don’t want a wedding anymore. I feel so uncomfortable and ashamed if how big I’ve become. My arms are seriously gross and i can’t add a bolero to my dress. I look at photos and my arms are the size if my head, if not bigger. My double chin shows up everyday now, not just at the wrong angle. I absolutely hate how I look. I don’t want photos. I dont want to be paraded in front of 100 people looking like this. I don’t know what to do. I’m so upset i spebt enough money on this one day that I could have bought two new cars, and I don’t even want to go through with it now.
Post # 3
*hug* Easier said than done, but please don’t feel this way! I looked up your earlier dress photo, and if you’re really unhappy, why don’t you get a nice wrap or cashmere cardigan for non-photo times? The dress is lovely, and would look fine with something on top!
As a bigger girl, I completely understand where you are coming from. Be confident though, that on the day of your wedding, you are going to be surrounded by family and friends who all want to be with you on your big day. They love you, your Fi loves you, and you are going to be a radiant, beautiful bride.
Post # 4
@sofialovesmikey: There’s really nothing you can do NOW to drastically change the way you look. However, if you get on that damn treadmill 30 minutes a day until your wedding, you will FEEL so much better about yourself. Sure, your arms may still bother you but you will feel more fit, healthy, vibrant and beautiful. For me, exercising makes me like myself more and studies show it’s a natural antidepressant.
Disclaimer: For the record, I hate my arms too.
Post # 5
There’s no such thing as being too fat for your wedding!
I’m sure you look AMAZING, and not NEARLY as bad as you seem to think!
And best of all, there’s someone who REALLY wants to marry you and love you forever! And that is DEFINITELY worth having a wedding for!
Post # 6
is there anything pretty u can drape over your arms . I dont know what you or your dress look like . But do remember this … this day is for you and your fiance to celebrate your love and he fell in love with who you are a what you look like now. Be happy girl and know he loves you for you!
Post # 7
@sofialovesmikey: Man, I know it sucks, and I know you are hurting, but this day is between you and your husband. It isn’t a show for others, no matter how much money you pumped into it. I say buckle down for the next few weeks or whenever your wedding is and give it a good try again. It is so hard (I know because I have been on the weight loss rollercoaster) but you will feel better.
Remember that your husband loves you for who you are.
Post # 8
@sofialovesmikey: First of all, I’m president of the “I hate my arms” club. With that being said, I think if you really use your next 30 days wisely, (i.e., start tracking what you’re eating and get on the treadmill) you can probably lose 8 -10 pounds before the wedding. You’d be surprised how a few pounds less on the scale can boost your confidence 🙂 Either way, try not to stress – you’re going to be a beautiful bride and you’re marrying the man you love!
Post # 9
@sofialovesmikey: aw honey, we ALL go through that. There have been a million events in my life where I planned to loose weight, then a week or so before realized i havent done a damn thing!
you have three weeks! I am not sure what your goal is, but perhaps a juicing detox will help. If you have a juicer, look up the recipes from the documentary “fat, sick and almost dead” It has all your nutrients and wont leave you straving. It is hard, you can replace 2 meals a day instead of all 3. I am about to begin this, my dad has lost almost 24 lbs!
Also, maybe do a work out video that focuses on your arms. Buy some 5 lb weights and go from there. I think three weeks is enough time for you to tone up, but its going to take hard work and dedication.
AND if not, you know your SO will love you regardless of what size you are when you walk down the isle. You will be beautiful either way!
Post # 10
@sofialovesmikey: Honeslty, start doing some push ups. If you are consistent arms are one of the quickest muscles to show definition. You will not drop a lot of weight, but if you do pushups and even some arm exercises with eating right you can see a difference.
Remember, this is your wedding day. You want to look like YOU, not a “super skinny, I will never be that way again, who is this in pictures” you. Would you dye your hair a completely different color for the wedding? Probably not because you want to look like you. And you WILL BE BEAUTIFUL, and happy, and will not care about your arms the day you marry the love of your life!
Post # 11
I second a PP’s statement that if you do some exercise like hop on your treadmill for 30 mins a day or something leading up to your wedding, you will feel much better! Maybe you will even be motivated to keep it up afterwards and see some dramatic results in time, with some hard work! 🙂
Post # 12
So sorry you’re feeling this way. 🙁 <hug> Other than the advice I’ve seen so far, I can only encourage you to concentrate on the fact that you are marrying a man who loves you despite your weight, and your friends and family who love you (also despite your weight) will be there to support you. Try to focus on what’s important: the love between the two of you and the commitment you’re making, with the love and support from your loved ones who will be more focused on the joy in your eyes than the size of your arms.
Post # 13
You need to ask yourself what is more important- your size or your marriage? If you want to make healthy changes in your life, then that’s great! but I don’t think you should postpone your wedding.
Post # 14
I just want to say that when you get married, you are going to be thinking of the man of your dreams and not how you look. He finds you amazingly beautiful, so therefore you are!!
In addition to the advice other bees have posted, drink a TON of water. It will help you drop your water weight and look slimmer/less bloater, and you will feel great too! (most people lose about 5 pounds just by doubling their water intake)
Post # 15
3 weeks is a LONG time, you’d be surprised how much water weight you can drop. Don’t starve yourself, just limit carbs, sugars, soda, you dont want to be hungry and stressed on your big day. Like other bees said drink a TON of water.
You might not be skinnier per se but you definitely will feel good and toned if you moderately exercise and eat healthy.
Post # 16
Breath. As others said, 3 weeks is a long time. You’re not going to be able to lose much, but you CAN make yourself feel so much better.
– Lower your carbs. Don’t go too low, maybe 100g a day, otherwise you’ll probably get the carb flu and it can last anywhere from 1-3 weeks depending on the person. You don’t want to deal with that. But, at 100g a day you’ll be able to flush quite a bit of the water out of your system. Just make sure to drink LOTS as well. 😉
– Make time for your treadmill or going out for daily walks. Don’t do it because you want to lose weight. Do it to destress. Take your honey with you to bond. It really will make you feel better.
– Find a pretty wrap. If you look back at some of my wedding photos, that’s what I did since my upper arms were pretty big at the time.