(Closed) I'm too self-conscious to exercise alone.. advice appreciated

posted 6 years ago in Fitness
Post # 3
9916 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Just do it!  It’s like jumping in the pool…easier if you just jump right in.

I hate exercising in front of other people, but I’ve gotten over it.  No one is watching you.


If you want to just exercise and aren’t sure about Zumba, see if your gym has a personal trainer option.  At the Y here I pay about $17 a session for mine, and he makes me do all sorts of things that I would NEVER do alone.  Good luck!

Post # 4
3885 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Join meetup.com which has all sorts of local groups of folks looking to do activities together. Everything from knitting circles to record swaps (for those of us old enough to appreciate the beauty of vinyl). Good chance there will be a zumba group.  Or get some DVD’s and work out alone at home till you get comfortable with the routines and feel more confident joining a gym group.

Post # 5
8041 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@Brickette:  Funny, I feel more self conscious exercising in front of others (like people I am close with). I don’t really give a shit if some stranger I’ll likely never see again sees me without the perfect form lol. At least I get points for trying!

You should just go. Zumba isn’t rocket science… even uncoordinated people like me could pull it off. The fun part about Zumba is that everyone looks silly.

Post # 6
3170 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I can’t bring myself to do Zumba either, i’m just not that comfortable to dance all crazy. Could you get a trainer? It helped me a lot to have someone with me showing me how to do things so I didn’t feel like a loser.

Post # 7
227 posts
Helper bee

buy the DVD’s do it at home until you get confident


Post # 8
8679 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I don’t like to work out in front of people either. I have an elliptical in my basement and I use DVDs at home instead, works for me! Plus I have no excuses not to work out since it doesn’t even involve leaving the house lol.

Post # 9
76 posts
Worker bee

@canarydiamond:  +1  I would rather be by myself than with someone I know.  If I see someone I know at the gym, I avoid them like the plague ๐Ÿ™‚

@Brickette: Honestly, zumba is probably not the class to start out with if you’re self-conscious.  I’m not usually self-conscious at all about working out in front of strangers, but it took me a WHILE to get used to shaking my booty in front of the whole gym.

Is there another group fitness class you could go to?  


Post # 10
351 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@Brickette:  Just like peachacid said, just do it, no one is watching. I personally have no problem going to classes on my own but I did have a friend that didn’t want to go on her own either. I told her to just go (she goes to a different gym). She went and realized it wasn’t that bad at all. She now goes quite often. ๐Ÿ™‚ I can even tell her persoanlity is bubblier now than before.

Zumba is fun. The great part about classes is that you can meet new people at them. the more you go, the more comfortable you get and all of a sudden you have a girl or a group of girls that you become work out friends with.

Post # 12
108 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Hi Brickette – I know the problem you mean. I live in a tiny apartment and my downstairs neighbor gets mad and comes to knock on my door if I do a single jumping jack, so………….. I honestly put on some headphones and turn the lights down low, and have a 1 woman dance party in the bathroom. I use the stopwatch on my phone to make sure I hit 20 minutes, and just go for it. Then I will do 100 crunches and that’s my workout right now. It’s not perfect but it’s better than nothing.


i want to do a zumba class too and i have no one to go with either. ๐Ÿ™

Post # 13
1181 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@Brickette:  I totally understand how you feel. I was the same way for a while. I ended up going 1-2x to a particular place with a friend 1st- after I didn’t mind as much when I went alone. For whatever reason going 1st with a friend or family member helped me out! 

Post # 14
3564 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I was the same way! I found a friend to go with, and she went a few times with me but she didn’t like it and quit.  By that point I loved the class and I still go.  Just get there and find a spot in the back of the class.  I promise nobody will be paying attention to you, as most everyone in there will have eyes locked on the instructor.  I’ve just started feeling confident enough to work my way up towards the front of the class. Everyone in there is there for the same reason as you! 

Post # 15
2966 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Brickette:  I totally feel your pain – I’m right there with ya. 


The thing is, there are a lot of other people that feel that way – and some of them will probably be in that class with you! 


There is no shame in doing something good for your health! Remember that you are there for you, and no one else. 


As far as strategies, why don’t you start out in the back of the class, and whenever you feel it you can move up…and then eventually, you will make friends! And go out for coffee (no sugar) with them afterwards, and meet up for other things!


It’s such a great experience, and tbh no one pays attention to anyone else because they are so busy trying not to pass out! 


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