- 6 years ago
- Wedding: May 2012
It’s not what you think, my relationship isn’t a mess, but my life is crazy stressful.
Ok we’re due to be married this coming May and when I look at a calendar it FREAKS me out!! It’s coming quick and I’m not ready.
Then you add in that our 2yr old has congenital scoliosis and is facing surgery. We’ve flown to LA to meet a doctor and now we’re flying to Boston in a couple weeks to meet another. They want to do a spinal fusion when he’s 3 which is in February. Grant it, he probably doesn’t need it the minute he turns 3 but it will be in that year, the sooner the better for him. The doctor we want is retiring in May so we would have to do it before the wedding. This means traveling, a week in a hospital and then 4 weeks at home. That’s without complications.
So, major stress of his surgery, the time off of work (some without pay) and of course all the expenses. Now add your wedding is just around the corner from then. Yeesh.
The thought came into my mind and it would relieve a lot of stress to postpone yet my heart was torn, I’ve worked hard and wanted to continue planning. Yet I have so much to do yet as well so it could get crazy hectic & stressful plus the holidays are near.
I emailed my venue, photographer and DJ whom I have deposits with and asked if I could move it out a year. All but the venue would do this but the venue wont unless they’d happen to book my date for another weddong. If not, I lose $1000. Or I should say my parents do.
That’s a lot of money to just throw out a window. What a waste and it’s keeping me awake. My parents agree it’s a lot to throw away yet they also said if it reduces the stress it’s worth it. I just don’t feel right asking them to do that nor do I have $1000 to throw away.
Initially I also brought up my dress to my mom. I explained that I’ve already had a lil regret and she said if it came down to me hating it in another year and a half that we could always get another.
It’s just a lot of stuff that I am afraid will change (my taste) in that time and I don’t want to cost people more money than they’re already spending.
Then I look at a calendar and see how fast May will be here. I haven’t even started the weight loss program (if I had one), and have a ton to do for the wedding yet.
Any advice? I’m so torn. I don’t want May 19th to come and I regret not doing it, yet I don’t want to end up with unexpected problems with the surgery and then I have NO time to do anything for the wedding when it gets to an already stressful crunch time.