(Closed) I'm torn.. :( My dream venue VS my dream date! PLEASE HELP!

posted 8 years ago in October 2012
Post # 3
176 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I think having it on the 16th is a great option. Both of my sisters got married on a Friday and they had no problem with people showing up (Plus a lot of vendors are a bit cheaper for Friday weddings and you could have more options). If you are really opposed to Friday weddings, then definitely go with Sept. 7th. 

I understand your attachment to the date, but I personally wouldn’t give up my dream venue for a date. You may end up being disappointed in a lot of other ways in the end if you give it up.  

Post # 4
11533 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I honestly would choose the factor that means the most to you. I don’t know you at all. However, as I read your post, I get the very strong sense that the date truly means much more to you than this venue.  Because of that, and only because of that, I would suggest that you go with your gut instinct and keep the date that is so meaningful to you.  There are many beautiful venues, and I’m sure you will be able to find something else that you love that is available on the date that you prefer.

Happy planning! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 5
36 posts
  • Wedding: March 2013

If the date is that important to you then try and find another venue. I would choose venue but I’m not that sentimental about dates….to be honest my fiance and I have been together since sept 2009…we don’t remember the exact date because at the time neither one of us wanted anything serious…it just kinda happened. We havent even celebrated an anniv. But that’s me… it seems the date is important so find another venue.

Post # 6
5949 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

I would book the 16th, that way your anniversary is a two day event!

Post # 7
4346 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I vote date because then we’re date twins. And because it really sounds like that date is more important to you than the venue.

ETA: Or you could compromise and get married August 17th, 2014. Its a Sunday though.

Post # 8
250 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

i guess your question now is whether having most of your guests attend is more important or the date is more important. That also has to do with who you are inviting. If it’s mostly family and close friends then ya-they’ll totally make time to be there. If you want a big blow out with friends and aquaintances then keep in mind that less will rsvp because of work.

Post # 9
1067 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

There are a billion different venues that are beautiful. Just keep looking. The date is important to you, you should stick to it! ๐Ÿ˜€

Post # 10
80 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2014


I am a huge fan of important dates, and I know I would hate to miss my dream date for the sake of a week, but that’s just me haha I would even be more happy with August 16 over September 7, just because your wedding festivities could carry on to August 17 if you wish, and you could still say you celebrated on your anniversary! But is there another venue you would be happy with? Where we live, in a small city, there is not much choice in venues, so they’re all the same to me, but I understand that’s probably not the case for most other places!! 

I think you really need to determine what means the most to you. Consider it going both ways and see which one makes you feel happiest. But remember what you said, the date is going to be with you forever. The venue is just for one night. 
Good luck deciding!

Post # 11
625 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’d look for another venue.


Post # 13
989 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Venue is for a day, date is forever…

Post # 14
237 posts
Helper bee

OH. MY. GOD…I just, I don’t know what to say…date?????

Post # 15
821 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I think you should go for the date.  It is already so special and means so much to you!

There are so many good venues out there, and at the end of the day, after you are married you don’t really think of the venue (well I don’t) but the date you will celebrate forever ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 16
286 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I had a similar delima – August 26th was our day, and I wanted it so bad!  It just wasn’t working out then my Fiance said something that made it okay.  He told me that he wanted a new day because our wedding was so much MORE important than our dating anniversary, it deserved its own day.  I went with October 27th and I’m perfectly happy and we still celebrated our anniversary on August 26 for our sixth anniversary this year, and everyone I know still celebrates both anniversaries, obviously just a bigger celebration for the wedding anniversary.

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