Post # 1
So, my Fiance asked me to be his girlriend August 17th. He proposed 2 years later on the same day. I want to get married on August 17th, and have it be our special, perfect day! Plus no remembering all the seperate things!
But the venue I fell in love with is booked on that day (which is a Saturday), but August 16th is free, but it’s on a Friday. I’ve heard such horror stories about no one showing up for Friday wedding, you having to have it later on at night (which i would not like.. :S I want to get married early on in the day and have the evening with my fiancee.)
The next Saturday available is Sept 7th. :S But it breaks my heart, because then we’ll have to break our day in two places.
Do I just choose the room, and celebrate sept 7th for the rest of my life? Or does a silly date not matter, and I should choose my room? But the room is only in that moment, the date is for the rest of our lives!
Wow, I’m torn. I’m probably overthinking it. I have until Friday when I see the room again and put a deposit on it.
What would you choose?
Post # 3
I think having it on the 16th is a great option. Both of my sisters got married on a Friday and they had no problem with people showing up (Plus a lot of vendors are a bit cheaper for Friday weddings and you could have more options). If you are really opposed to Friday weddings, then definitely go with Sept. 7th.
I understand your attachment to the date, but I personally wouldn’t give up my dream venue for a date. You may end up being disappointed in a lot of other ways in the end if you give it up.
Post # 4
I honestly would choose the factor that means the most to you. I don’t know you at all. However, as I read your post, I get the very strong sense that the date truly means much more to you than this venue. Because of that, and only because of that, I would suggest that you go with your gut instinct and keep the date that is so meaningful to you. There are many beautiful venues, and I’m sure you will be able to find something else that you love that is available on the date that you prefer.
Happy planning! 🙂
Post # 5
If the date is that important to you then try and find another venue. I would choose venue but I’m not that sentimental about dates….to be honest my fiance and I have been together since sept 2009…we don’t remember the exact date because at the time neither one of us wanted anything serious…it just kinda happened. We havent even celebrated an anniv. But that’s me… it seems the date is important so find another venue.
Post # 6
I would book the 16th, that way your anniversary is a two day event!
Post # 7
I vote date because then we’re date twins. And because it really sounds like that date is more important to you than the venue.
ETA: Or you could compromise and get married August 17th, 2014. Its a Sunday though.
Post # 8
i guess your question now is whether having most of your guests attend is more important or the date is more important. That also has to do with who you are inviting. If it’s mostly family and close friends then ya-they’ll totally make time to be there. If you want a big blow out with friends and aquaintances then keep in mind that less will rsvp because of work.
Post # 9
There are a billion different venues that are beautiful. Just keep looking. The date is important to you, you should stick to it! 😀
Post # 10
I am a huge fan of important dates, and I know I would hate to miss my dream date for the sake of a week, but that’s just me haha I would even be more happy with August 16 over September 7, just because your wedding festivities could carry on to August 17 if you wish, and you could still say you celebrated on your anniversary! But is there another venue you would be happy with? Where we live, in a small city, there is not much choice in venues, so they’re all the same to me, but I understand that’s probably not the case for most other places!!
I think you really need to determine what means the most to you. Consider it going both ways and see which one makes you feel happiest. But remember what you said, the date is going to be with you forever. The venue is just for one night.
Good luck deciding!
Post # 11
I’d look for another venue.
Post # 12
@Brielle: Thanks so much! 🙂 I do love the date.. And then we could have a August 16&17th thing going on.. Maybe I will do the Friday wedding. We can even set up and decorate on the Thursday. I love the date, and even if as many people can’t show up, I think I need to stick with it.
Thank you so much everyone!!! 🙂 I just needed evenyone’s thoughts, and vent it out. I think I’m going to go with the Friday wedding!
Post # 13
Venue is for a day, date is forever…
Post # 14
OH. MY. GOD…I just, I don’t know what to say…date?????
Post # 15
I think you should go for the date. It is already so special and means so much to you!
There are so many good venues out there, and at the end of the day, after you are married you don’t really think of the venue (well I don’t) but the date you will celebrate forever 🙂
Post # 16
I had a similar delima – August 26th was our day, and I wanted it so bad! It just wasn’t working out then my Fiance said something that made it okay. He told me that he wanted a new day because our wedding was so much MORE important than our dating anniversary, it deserved its own day. I went with October 27th and I’m perfectly happy and we still celebrated our anniversary on August 26 for our sixth anniversary this year, and everyone I know still celebrates both anniversaries, obviously just a bigger celebration for the wedding anniversary.