(Closed) I'm torn.. :( My dream venue VS my dream date! PLEASE HELP!

posted 8 years ago in October 2012
Post # 17
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

We were looking to get married on October 8th but it’s a Monday.  So we chose to get married the day before on a Sunday because then our dates are close!  We are getting married on Columbus Day weekend =] and we will be arriving in hawaii on our 5 year anniversary.  I like that the dates are close.  I like that we’ll be getting married the day before and celebrating our 5 year anniversary as a married couple.  For me, that makes it special.  Plus, I found out his grandparents got married on a Columbus day weekend too.  So that made it more special.  Originally we had looked at October 6th too because we thought a Saturday would be more convienent but prices were higher.  And then we got the whole idea of a Sunday brunch.

I dunno, I guess what I’m saying is go with what feels right to you.  If the date is super important than go with that or get the day before like how we’re doing.  We kinda will have a two day anniversary.  October 7, 2013 will be our first wedding anniversary and the next day we’ll celebrate 6 years together.  For me, that makes it really special.  =)  I’m really happy with the day we chose.  I’ve heard a lot of people are having Friday weddings now too.  I was concerned about having a Sunday wedding but so many people have already RSVPed and it’s nice.  =)  I think we will have a good turn out.

Post # 18
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I would choose the date! You have to live with it for the rest of your lives, and the venue you are just using for one day!

Post # 19
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

We found our dream venue and also had a dream date in mind, but they were booked that day. We sacrificed our date and picked the day after for the dream venue. I think it’s important to have two separate dates – dating anniversary and wedding anniversary.

Post # 20
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I would most likely go with the date.

Post # 21
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I wanted December 21, because it was the day my Fiance and I met, and his birthday. 

Buttttt it was literally a $9,000 difference to have it on Sunday, the 22nd. Obviously Sunday won!

Honestly it’s just a date, I would do the Friday wedding at an amazing venue!

Post # 22
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

what is more important to you?  the date or the venue? 

i agree with

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@Mrs.C.to.bee:  your wedding is special and should have it’s own date to celebrate.

Post # 23
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I think people will show up to a Friday wedding as long as not too many people are from out of town.  For our wedding, more than half of the people are going to have to travel 6 hours or more to get there, so a Friday would probably eliminate a lot of the guest list.  (In fact, we picked Sunday of Memorial Day weekend so that most people wouldn’t have to take any days off of work.) But if a lot of people are local, I bet they would show up.

Post # 24
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Busy Beekeeper

given that i know how you feel, as i was sentimentally attached to our “date”, which was ironically – August 17!  we started dating then too and celebrated it every year for 6 years before we got married.  I would have LOVED to have gotten married on that date….but it was not feasible. we got married in April, and honestly, i really like having a new date for our wedding. It’s a new thing, new step in your relationship, so a new date to commemorate that i think is a great thing.  So personally if i were you, i would go with Saturday September 7th.

Post # 25
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Busy Beekeeper

oh and i think saturday is better than friday.  and no matter what, if you go with friday august 16, it’s still not august 17….so not the same in  my opinion.  and so in that case, i see no difference between august 16 and sept. 7th.

Post # 26
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

in this case i’d switch venues. the day i think WILL be more specail down the road

 

Post # 27
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I was willing to gget married the day before our special date.  So I think if you really love this venue, do it the day before or atfer the date so at least you can celebrate for 2 days (instead of 1  😉

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