(Closed) I'm trying hard to not stress about getting pregnant but it is hard..

posted 4 years ago in TTC
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I think if you were 22 or 42 you’d stress and worry… I think we all have that fear of unexplained infertility bc most of us know someone who hasn’t been able to have babies.  Just try and enjoy your sexy time and let things do what they do. 

For us, I used the cheapie OPKs and on our second month trying I thought I’d bite the bullet and use the expensive digital ones bc my friend told me that after 6 months of trying, she got pregnant with those on their first try.  So we used the digital and got pregnant the first time using them. 

 

Also, she told me (she’s a nurse) that she had a tilted uterus (as do I) and that having him ‘finish’ while you are face down is a better angle for the sperm to hit their target – just an FYI if you happen to be one of the many with a tilted uterus.  I followed both of these tips and wound up preggo.  But again, I think average is like 6 months… so don’t worry if 3 or 4 months go by without a positive 🙂  It’s normal

Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Prettysmile40:  I am totally with you here. We are 30 and 31 so I know we have some time but when you want something so bad, it can’t come soon enough! I am not normally a stressed out person, and usually fairly easy going, but with TTC I find myself getting worried and obsessive about it. I recently read somewhere that the majority of couples find they conceive within the first 3 months. I am in cycle 4, so now I have started to get anxiety when I think about TTC and legit fertility issues! When people say to relax, that in no way helps because it is nearly impossible to do just by thought alone. I find myself saying a mantra in my head, “I will be pregnant, maybe not this cycle or the next, but I will be pregnant”. And it has helped. I also am limiting my interaction on WB and TTC forums (the internet in general on things TTC-related!). I am trying so hard to get myself to believe that it will happen when it’s suppose to, easier said than done. I too think about it a LOT. It’s so annoying!

Post # 4
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Newbee

Try not to stress and worry about this issue too much. Putting an extra stressor like trying to get pregrant can take a big toll on the relationship (I’m not saying it will, but the added worry and stuff can make for uncessary feelings and issues). Keep having a positive attitute about the situation and if you envision it, chances are good that it will happen. Especially since you said you are fertile. By chance, did he have a check with the doctor? Could that be a reason as to why you aren’t pregant (yet)?

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

berrybunny:  Same age, same concerns! It is so hard to not stress, but thats what all of our doctors have told us. We were able to get pregnant last October, but unfortunately it ended in a miscarriage. We took a few months off, but have been trying for 6 cycles and it hasn’t happened again. My doctor told me that it happened the first time because we weren’t trying. That response makes me want to scream. Love your mantra! Good luck!

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Prettysmile40:  my husband and I started TTC right after we got married in June.  I didn’t get pregnant the first two cycles, so I started the OPKs this month and it’s making me go crazy and is freaking me out.  I never knew exactly when I ovulated every month, but I thought that since my cycles are regular and at 28 days, I would be right in the middle at 14 days.  I’ve used 7 ovulation tests starting at CD 11, and I have yet to get a positive test. 

I keep googling infertility and not ovulating, etc and I’m worried that something is wrong with me and time is running out! We’re both in our mid 30’s and my sister and her husband started trying for a baby in their mid 30’s also.  They tried everything, and when IVF didn’t work, they just had to adopt.  If my sister didn’t have any problems, I don’t think I would be as worried, but since she did, I feel like I may be like her. 

That’s so funny about the psychic.  My mom goes to a psychic and has readings for all of my sisters and brother, and I keep asking her about what they said about my sister and me and the psychic said we would both have 2 children each.  That must be the standard number they say lol

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Prettysmile40: I am by no means an expert, but I’ll chime in since no one else has yet. From what I’ve read, after the first positive, you should have sex daily for the next three days. A positive OPK indicates you will likely ovulate within 12-36 hrs. Unless your man has slow/few swimmers, I would do it daily.

ETA: I wouldn’t stress about having done it the day before your positive. We basically hit every single day within the fertile window, long before I get a positive OPK. Although, we haven’t had a BFP in 3 cycles, so what do I know! But from what research I’ve done, that should be ok. Statistically, I think the most fertile day to conceive is about 2 days before O anyway. Depending on how long your LH surge is and where you are in your surge when you test positive on an OPK (you could be seeing the beginning, the peak, or the end of your surge; who knows?), exact time/day of O may be pretty hard to determine. I have read that CM tends to dry up quickly after O but for some women (like me, I think) that happens almost immediately, versus someone else that may take a day or so to gradually change from fertile CM.

I hope that helps. I know it is very very hard not to overthink everything when your BFP may depend solely on what happens in the next few days. No pressure *rolls eyes*. 🙂

  • This reply was modified 4 years, 5 months ago by  berrybunny.
Post # 11
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Newbee

Prettysmile40:  In that case, all you can do is keep trying. Sometimes believing in something actually works. Sending you lots of well wishes and good vibes! 

Post # 12
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Helper bee

I’m 28 and very stressed about getting pregnant even though we aren’t trying yet! I’m charting and starting to worry something is wrong with me because of the temperatures I’m getting. I don’t know what I’ll do if I can’t get pregnant because I want a baby so badly. I’m adopted and have never even met a biological relative so our child would be my first. I just want that experience so badly and I think that’s what makes me so worried. I tend to be kind of a worrywart though. But you’re definitely not alone in stressing!

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